Assuming this isn't a "bate" or a joke, because I don't want to go on and feel like an idiot for offering some hearfelf advice.

Men and women tend to generalize and stereoptype if they are feeling insecure or inexperienced. Tend to ... I am not going to generalize here.  That being said.  Here is a crone's wisdom:

Poeple, men or women want relationships with like minded segnificant others who will appreicate them, accept them and feel affection for them.  They want to feel emotionally safe with the other person and feel secure with the relationship.  To do this, one must offer the same to that person and be sincere.  This is after all the fluff of appearence that fades, money that could go away at any moment and popularity that also fades. Passion is the driving force in youth and companionship later on ... although the passion doesn't go away. 

Read between the lines a bit as this is an "all ages" forum. I guess being someone who is in a committed relationship that has had many ups and downs and has lasted 43 years ... all I can say is seek someone with simalar interests.  develope a friendship and move to something more lasting ... be willing to compramize and be giving.  You will recieve if genuine and if the other person isn't a taker.  Keep in mind that we all have our baggage and shold be considerate of that. 

IF this helps let me know.  IF you are sincere.  All the women want this and men want that is just shallow nonesence ... go for someone who shares your interests and beliefs and you got a good beginning.

Boni 

Boni

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"Be Hero to Yourself" -- Peter Tork