here's my recommendation: some lady age 25 - 45 in the L.A. area who reads this forum and wants to meet some new guys should send OP an IM about meeting OP for a date at starbucks or some other cafe or bistro with wifi, where they could talk about poser, rendering, animation et al. and have a good time.  it might be really fun, they could bring their laptop - why not try it?  or somebody in the L.A. area could have a party and invite local users.  they've done it in the frisco area (PDRB), hence it might work down south.