Its not a problem Stacey, we are with ya!  I know that Plutom was chatting, but didnt even seem to appear on the list at all.  That was rather strange.  I too have used the private chat, didnt cause much problem for me.

I hate having to remove the persons name from the initial whisper though, if you understand what I mean.  you should be able to just type in the regular box to talk in the room, then type in the window of the private chat person, make sense?