Quote - Totally different circumstances, Larry.  There wasn't any suggestion of using confidential info in your case, nor of stalking.  T'other scenario has both, in spades.

Pretty much, SamT, but she was - is - a babe and it was pretty obvious that every guy in there was checking her out. She told me much later that she was very surprised I didn't hit on her that first time in the coffee shop.

And I did have her personal information. not that it matters much.

Frankly, my advice would be to go for it, but be very respectful and, if you get "no", abide by it. Take it to me "no." She might be flattered, but you don't want her to be scared. Could be some awful consequences.