Quote - has anybody been successful at making conformers for her?

Quickconform just produces an invisible .cr2, and trying to delete bones in PP2012 just crashes Poser, i can delete the un-needed bones in earlier versions of Poser (P8 and PP2010) but on trying to go back to the Pose room and save the .cr2 after bone deleting, they both crash.

even using the full skeleton has not worked properly for me, upon copy joint parameters over( from the figure menu) conforming , etc. upon posing ( even a mild pose) the mesh explodes?

Have you tried the method discussed in Chapter 31 of the Poser Pro 2012 manual (Transferring Zones and Weight Maps to Clothing). That will apply the skeleton and the weight maps to the clothing you are trying to conform. It starts on page 686 in the copy I have.

When you re-enter the Pose room, any extra bones will be removed from the skeleton.