Quote - 1.  Is there a way to make those mesh lights that come with reality emit light but be invisible in the render?  i'm having an issue with a really tight scene and my lights keep intruding in my view

Than your lighting is wrong :-), simple as that. Would that work in real life? No. So, why are you trying to do that with Lux? Because biased renderers gave you the bad habit of cheating. I'm not meaning to single you out :-) We all have been there. Ask a photographer how she does it. She takes the lights out of the frame! Use the same approach, your lights should not be in the frame. Thousands of movies are made with enough lighting to fry a steak and still we don't see them in the scene. Lights should not, must not, be in the frame. Don't get discouraged though, it's just a matter of practice. Once you master the exposure controls you will not need to resort to having the lights in the frame :-)

Best of luck.

Paolo

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