Okay, this is what i've got....(nudity in animation)

http://jrdonohue.com/clothhair3.mp4

I don't seem to have the (eybrow?) bug.

So, what shader/maps to I put on this, and I wonder if it will look like hair in animation if I do.

It would be great, because the simulation churns at about 2-3 seconds per frame, even with collision.

Any suggestions for making it look like hair?

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 [edited to add: I am not colliding against "head" because it was not giving good results because of ears. So, i have a very low res proxy (you can't see it) parented to the head, and the prop parented to the proxy. you may see a little "whoops' with the nose, that's because I carelessly did not ease the nose inside the proxy!]