What I am leading towards here is the conform to part of the shirt should stay with kids shirt so who ever used it won't have to conform to also, correct?

OH!!!! If I am understanding your question right, you are asking if there is a way to save the clothing so that it automatically conforms when you add it to a scene?  Am I understanding that right?

No ... the user has to conform a piece of clothing to a figure manually (most especially if there are multiple figures in a scene).  There are two ways to conform clothing. The quickest way is to drag and drop the clothing from the Library onto the figure you want to have wear it.

The second way (the old way) is to click on the clothing, select the Figure > Conform To command, and then select the figure that you want to wear the clothing.

So if this is the only issue that you now have (that you have to manually conform it to the figure), then no you aren't doing anything wrong, that's how it works. 8-)

 

So the main question now is ... after you conform it to the Kids again, does the shirt fit the figure properly, and follow the figure the way it should when you pose it?