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@EClark**
True, but a toy isn't human.

If I caught a partner sleeping around she'd be out of the door even before she could put her knickers back on, and more than that, she would never set foot back in that door - ever.  If I caught her looking at pictures of naked guys while getting off to them, I'd be just as pissed off but would want to know what I'm doing wrong.  If I caught her with a toy, same thing, I'd want to know what I'm doing wrong, or perhaps more to the point - what I'm not doing.

Surely a sexual partner is in a position to tell you what she wants, so the only reason she'd need to use a toy would be if you either aren't or can't deliver what she wants.

Anyway, like you said, it's getting a bit off-topic - lol