I know Blender can do hair and either as an actual mesh obj or with in the particle system here is a video tutorial describing 3 methods and work flows for creating hair with in Blender Different Methods For Making Hair   As to which software is a better choice Blender, Max, Maya or any other Modeling software you will get a variety of answer on which is better for this or that. Blender has many great tools to do just about anything the big name software packages can do and it is Free. You will have to decide what works best for you with in your own personal workflow. I am sure more members will chime in with their opinion since we are fortunate to have a wide variety of experience within this forum so am very confident you will get more replies to your question soon.

 

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