Quote : " Whaw, Roxie "grew" a lot in your nice render ".

Dynamic cloth reacts much better to stretching than to shrinking. I only used the "voluptuous" morph if you want her to look like that. 

The problem with making the shoes of this particular dress invisible is that they share the same material zone as the "dress" part. Only the soles have a separate material zone. 

If you modify it in other software you may end up redoing the whole item to keep it "cloth room friendly".

My suggestion would be that you continue to release the "all-in" clothing as conforming items and provide the parts that are suitable for the cloth room as  separate pp2 props too

Even stretching has its limits ...

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