This sucks lol.  Anyone know if i can fix this?

Sometimes, this happens because of certain scripted, dynamic, morphs being applied. IIRC, there's an M4 (can be used with V4, too) morph that requires injections and special channels that can cause weird issues with selection. (The one that injects the K4 figure into M4 and you can dial an "age." Can't remember which one.) If you have complicated morphs/injections installed, these could be the problem, especially if you don't experience it with other figures. If you have this problem and other issues with V4/M4 specifically, you may wish to reinstall those figures and to reinitialize them, just in case.

Another issue, just a guess, that could happen is that you have an issue with OpenGL compatibility. Try running the Pose Room in the secondary driver. (Accessed in the Display menu.) If you continue to have issues, try updating your video drivers.