hopeandlove posted at 4:15PM Mon, 14 March 2016 - #4261060

Hi Pip- Yes, relationships are about give/take. I completely agree with you. And, it seems as if we're making rules and not asking for your opinion. For that, I apologize. From now on, I promise to involve you guys more often than I had. But, it seems no matter what we say, you guys think we're not listening. It seems if when we DO explain something, it gets twisted into something that wasn't intended on meaning and that's why we may seem like we don't "listen."

A long time ago, I've heard stories that the community was more about helping than hurting one another. It was more about being a team rather than who is against whom. And, I'd like to get back to that. I promise to try harder in letting you guys be part of the decision-making. But, please note, if we don't agree/take your opinion, that doesn't mean that we're not listening. I apologize if it seems like I'm belittling or talking to you guys like children. You are not children, you are adults.

Let's start to trust each other little by little and see where it takes us.

Thank you.

Perhaps it was more like that at some point but has not been like that for many, many years. It certainly is not like that now. We have some in the admin area that are awesome, then we have some, that try to spin it, try to apologize but no matter how hard they try.....there has to be a BUT attached to it. It's like standing there and apologizing to someone that you have wronged or admitting you are wrong, then turning around and saying "BUT because I perceived it this way, I'm really not wrong, but I want you to think I'm wrong so we can continue"....I think the feeling of insincerity starts to creep in.

A statement with "I apologize" has no room for a but in it. You apologize and move on, drop the but.

Sorry it's just the same ole stuff....some are listening some are not. Those that listen and want to change it are being shouted down by those that want to think they know what they are doing, when they clearly don't.