Great News.... Optix now working.... Turns out when I did a clean install of Windoze11 it automatically installed G force game drivers for my GPU, I uninstalled those and installed the Studio drivers I normally run...  Now getting 2.5 frames per min with medium adaptive GPU preset as opposed to a tad over one frame per min before. Still not applying noise reduction even though its ticked, I do batch drag&drop NVIDIA de-noising manually(wish there were options for de-noising strength though). Oh well, it is what it is. Still not 40x but its all this RTX3060 is capable of I guess. It'll have do till I can get a 3090 or a 3090ti if or when the bottom ever drops out of the GPU market.

Here's a sample render, big scene with a whole Neighborhood of actual geometry one streetlight outside. HDRI on the construct, and a movie (War Of The Worlds night battle scene) driving an area light hidden inside the TV (TV set to not cast shadows)... Y'all have a Great day.

Render

De-noised

These are draft renders I'll tweak animation and materials several times before final renders with higher samples....

Y'all have a great day.