well with the help of you guys and working a few things out i came up with a solution im happy to say (as this has been annoying me)  I will put my solution here for people who might have the same problem at some point. 

1. uncheck reflection lite mult 

2. lower deffuse value to .85

3 delete all nodes leaving only Image map and image map 2

Image map connects to Diffuse col and spec col.

Image map 2 connects to bump and Displacement. 

this needs to be done on every part of each clothing item. 

huge Thanks to you guys for the advice.