I want to express my gratitude and appreciation to everyone in this thread. It's SO refreshing to see us all tackling a hard subject with respect for each other's feelings and allowing all voices to be heard. YAY everyone!

As far as T-pose vs A-pose.  A-pose lends itself better to clothing creation as the clothing drapes more naturally in an A-pose than a T-Pose, and it's easier to define where the shoulder line sits. Especially in Marvelous Designer. As far as combining male and female meshes, the challenge is the boobage. It's hard to get a boob shape that works well with both, and the G9 mesh is challenging for males in that area. But the G9 face is .... pinches fingers to mouth .... MWAH!