Locking every outburst is why the anger and hurt not only remain but escalate, since no one is allowed to get it out of his or her system. There is no closure. If things were let run their course like they used to be back in the Wild Wild West days here less folks would be so tense and bursting out all over. Sure... there were whiners then who could not take the heat and so shoulda' gotten the hell out of Dodge, but most of the C&D regulars knew the score and could take their lumps, giving as good as they got, and wake up in the morning still friends and still respecting eachother.