Momcat...you've got it!!! the light within. nicely put. i think this may bother quite a few of us. maybe, this is what bothers tisa. and, you are right about the 25 oohs and ahhs. to test this: simply give a honest...no, strike that....sugar coated, trying to be honest but glowing...and see how you get flamed. possibly even a troll, by these folks. however, no one can force growth on anyone in the galleries.