In truth this debate reminds me of a gift-giving faux pas I once committed when I was fourteen. My (I guess) well-intentioned aunt gave me kiddie underwear for Christmas (yes, the dreaded Robin "UnderRoos.")And when asked by my mom how I liked them (in my aunt's hearing,) I said that they were ugly and that I would never wear them. Upon hearing this, my mom made me put them on immediately. Hearing my protestations from another room, my twin brother conviniently "lost" his Batman UnderRoos in a deep pile of laundry never to be found again. Having told this story, I ask who was wrong in this story, and who was right. I believe that both my aunt and I were wrong, and my brother was right. She was wrong for not realizing how embarrassing her last minute gift would be to a young adolescent boy. (After all, she had children my age.) I was wrong for publicly depricating the gift she had given me. Her poor taste and lack of sensitivity did not escuse mine. My brother quietly accepted the poor gift and wasn't humiliated in public. The morale: How this for a compromise position: Both giving and receiving requires a measure of social grace. The freestuff poster was somewhat amiss in DEMANDING that we respect his wishes instead of asking politely for it. As the potential recipients of his gifts, good manners generally requires one of two answers from us: (A) a polite refusal of his "suspect" gift, explaining that we thank him for what we hope is a good intentioned jesture but that it was poorly presented. Or, (B) we graciously accept his gift(and privately render to our hearts content,) but never post a "taboo" picture where he might see it. This seems the most appropriate way to deal with a poor giver. Being a poor receiver is not a valid option....IMHO. --lb