The only reason that lesbian couples get a little less bigotry is that it's erotic to some guys [most guys?] All I can think is, if they're insensitive boors, they just haven't seen enough gay people, they don't know that humans are humans across the board. It's hard to be slapped in the face with someone's ignorance but it's worthless to slap back. Somehow, then, you've just "proved" something to the oppressor. I won't say "him" cause there are plenty of homophobic women out there. Having come from a horribly dysfunctional family, I don't care what sex the parents are, as long as they love and care for their children-- family is a huge and embracive subject, not a narrow cage. Emily