Asrai, it actually Is better than it was 30, 40 years ago. I know, I was there 30 -40 years ago and you could not walk out in the street like pdxjims picture-- hell, you couldn't have the kid in the first place. It was, ipso facto, child abuse for same sex couples to raise children. Why, they might pass on heaven knows what-- tolerance?? Though, the tolerance level of Lesbian towards Gays is not all that high. Getting better, though. I think it's the money thing. I know I don't live in straight America, I dont live in consensus reality. I'm a Pagan who has worked in the theatre, at any particular time in my life, gays and lesbians have at least been 50% or more of my general social group. As have polyamorous couples. Not everybody has been this blessed. The more we are around difference, the more differences dissolve in our humanity and boy is that fucked up.LOL. But at least it's familiar. Everybody dislikes something, hates somebody else and is eager to find scapegoats. It takes a lot of effort to get away from that thinking. Nope, pdxjims, this isn't a safe place, but it isn't a shooting gallery either. We're alive, there are no really safe places anywhere. In closing, I would like quote from a semi-famous polyamorous priest, Otter G'zelle-- if you don't like it, you can't have any. Words of wisdom, should be how we live. Emily Nobody would like what I do in my bedroom, I just sleep.