Legume, this one line of yours kinda hit a nerve here... 'If someone here is being bullied, then it's their own damn fault.' I was bullied actively when I was at school. from the age of 4 to the age of 15. was it my fault? actually no. one, I was in a school that consisted of the dregs of Ealing's school system. you could not get expelled from Ealing Green, cos it was where they sent you when you were expelled from everywhere else. Me? I was sent there cos my uncle went there. I went out of my way not to be bullied. even to the point of making sure I got detentions etc. While I was there, 4 children were put in hospital by the action of the bullies. 1 lost a kidney, 2 with broken ribs and the other with a broken leg. the bullies? they got away. now I will not let any bully win. then I ran. now I make a stand. you say it's the persons own damn fault. not right. you can go out of your way to appease these ppl and it will not work. the only way to beat them? stand together. if they want trouble, don't let them target 1 person. they haveto target us all. Kai (PS - the 2nd reason? I have Aspergers Syndrome.. makes me kinda strange - the teachers etc let me down. it was not diagnosed until my Nephew was diagnosed.. when my sister was told her first question was 'why are you decribing my Brother....oh shit' - I got checked out.. and yup I have it and I was diagnosed at the age of 29. to late for any help)