Q, I usually understand easily what you write in threads, but I'm a bit lost...sorry. NOT to assume I am the center of the universe...or more immediately applicable, this thread...I think the combination of remarks made above is the best advice for anyone in the situation ziggie has found himself in. A message like... "I feel your pain (OK, so quoting Clinton isn't the best idea) and I'm sorry this shit is happening to you but you need to take a look around you and put this problem on a scale with all the other negative shit in your life and see just where it measures out at. IF this is the worst thing happening to you in your life, then you are very lucky! Now, here is what you can do about it...." ...would seem just fine to me. (I gave the short and blunt version for time's sake).