OK, Q, gotcha now. But as I said, it's pretty darn rare for physical meetings/contact to occur. I would think it's in the possibility realm similar to dying in a plane crash. In other words, I don't worry much about either. Child stalking and such is probably one of the higher possibilites. And again, I don't know what kind of IMs ziggie got. But I don't get the feeling he feels his life is in danger. More likely just hurt, a bit pissed, confused, and has decided the crap isn't worth putting up with. If so, I think the message I quickly keyed above is sound advice. As I said, I have at times felt like leaving. After a bit, though, I tell myself I need to get a grip and not let assholes make me leave a place where I mostly find satisfaction and help.