still gotta pull it down and on some hairs it's too big on the X scale or on the Z scale.. hmmmmm any other ideas?

Yes i'm sure, it's the default hair for the default figure that appears when you first start poser, that shows up fine. Then I delete that hair and try ANY other, I use the default Male Afro, etc. I'm kinda, well, a month new to poser so I usually keep to universal hairs and props and clothing.

and the hair is kinda too big for the head... or so it looks

one more problem.... now the hair is attached, but it flies way high in the air, should I fix it so it looks right and then parent it again?

hmmm, ok. Thanks for the help, yet then again I am brand new to full-fledged poser. (comedy moment: Texture Wraps?) I'll look at that webstie though, thanks.

Pro, but both if possible