Hello everyone,

I'm not new around here but I don't post in the forums hardly ever.  But I need some help and advice.

I'm not an artist. not by any stretch of the imagination but I can follow a tutorial and I do okay with creating graphics. nothing as outstanding as some of the work I've seen here though.  I'm not trying to be an artist either, I just enjoy the creation process.

anyway I'm using Koshini.  for some reason I like the shape of her face.  I always have a hard time getting her arms and hands the way I want them.  Is it just me or are they unusually large? 
When I try to make the hands smaller by moving the dial down they get larger.  If I try moving the dial up they become extremely distorted. I've tried everything I can think of to get her hands looking somewhat decent.

The arms will go smaller by using the dials but it seems the elbows become distorted when I pose her.  With some poses I can cover the weird looking joints when I take her into photoshop and paint clothes on her.

Can anyone help me understand how to make Koshini's arms and hands not look so strange?  I can't find any good tutorials to follow on this. 

All I'm trying to achieve right now is I want her arms so that one is across her belly with her hand cupped around her side and the other arm across her belly the same way but just slightly above the other arm so that they aren't crossed over each other.  I end up with mangled wrists and elbows.

Since I'm not an artist I try to mimic those I like and what I'm trying to do is create a pose like this one:
http://www.hextasy.com/html/fuckoffhotlinkers/2D/nevergrowup-post.jpg

why does this seem so hard?

Thanks in advance for any advice or help.
Kelly