Forum: Poser - OFFICIAL


Subject: OT: Women only like Guys who are experts at their hobby?

tebop opened this issue on May 19, 2011 · 61 posts


tebop posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:16 AM

I'm thinking because i feel alot of you guys are experts in 3D. You have a lot of technical skill. you know about making textures, rigging figures, setting up bones, modeling,render engines, etc etc.

I know nothing about that nor do I plan on studying it. I'm just an AVERAGE 3D art maker.

I just use poser etc to make images or sometimes attempt animation but it's not great. It's just average or below average.

 

I feel like most Women would be impressed and interested in guys like YOU , who have great skill. Meanwhile, they would think i'm just wasting my time. And in fact, i feel that many women would be attracted to guys with great 3D skills.

 

Anyways, i have other hobbies too besides poser. But i'm also not an expert/not good at any of my hobbies.

 

What do you guys think?


geep posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:19 AM

Yes. 😄

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vilters posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:23 AM

Euh, depends on the age..
But I think they mostly like our wallets.
=> to buy shoes.... :-)

Sorry, could not help it.....

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pakled posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:24 AM

Generalizing about women is a dangerous thing...;) However, I would think it depends on how much time you devote to the hobby vs how much time you devote to her...;)

That being said, many musicians (at least) know that there are women who appreciate art, especially if it reaches them on a personal level...it's a possibility the same is true in relation to art.

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Gareee posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:25 AM

I still think you are spending way too much time at the keyboard, and way too little time at living life.

I've always admired your zbrush work, and think you short change yourself there.

Way too many people take way too many things way too seriously.


JenX posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:33 AM

Quote - I still think you are spending way too much time at the keyboard, and way too little time at living life.

I've always admired your zbrush work, and think you short change yourself there.

 

I agree with Garreee, on both points.

 

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geep posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:46 AM

@ Gareee (or tebop)

Zbrush work? ... Where? :huh:

Remember ... "With Poser, all things are possible, and poseable!"


cheers,

dr geep ... :o]

edited 10/5/2019



mrsparky posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 10:22 AM

Women only like Guys who are experts at their hobby?

I'd guess a sheep farmer would know the answer to that :)

Pinky - you left the lens cap of your mind on again.



markschum posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 10:25 AM

well, I have some technical skills with Poser, so where are all the admiring womens ?  I has none :(

There are all sorts of women , and all sorts of men.  The trick is (for a man)  in finding a woman who finds you attractive for whatever reason, and finding one who you like as well. 

Show women your art, its a good talking point, just dont how the hardcore porn at the start.  Do some nice pictures , and work towards the porn.

I agree with Gareee, its unlikely a woman will knock on your door, give you a big wet kiss with tongue, and demand to see your artwork.  You need to get out and mix with people even if its just doing laundry and grocery shopping.

Borrow a dog if your area has dog parks, some women love dogs. Try a dance class, there may be single women who need partners to learn to waltz.   


SamTherapy posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 11:12 AM

I was popular with teh wimminz when I was just a beginner at 3D.

I do, however, possess several other skills.

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millighost posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 11:16 AM

Quote - ...

Borrow a dog if your area has dog parks, some women love dogs. ...

Now, this is a neat idea! Just make sure that your chosen woman really loves her dog, before you "borrow" it and wait until the "Missing Dog" posters turn up. Otherwise you might get stuck with a dog you do not even know the name of :-)


stewer posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 11:18 AM

People who are secure in who they are, are more attractive. Insecure people are less attractive.

Some people derive self-confidence from their hobbies. Others derive self-confidence from other aspects of their life.

You don't need to be good at 3D. You just need to be confident with being average at doing 3D :)


NanetteTredoux posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 11:34 AM

Well, being average at something which is very difficult and challenging is not so bad.

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Gareee posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 12:03 PM

Quote - I do, however, possess several other skills.

+1

/me licks eyebrows.

Way too many people take way too many things way too seriously.


Winterclaw posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 12:45 PM

Few people are experts, women just want a guy with confidence. 

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hborre posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 12:58 PM

GAREEE!  I almost shot Gatorade out my nostrils!


Boni posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 1:05 PM

Assuming this isn't a "bate" or a joke, because I don't want to go on and feel like an idiot for offering some hearfelf advice.

Men and women tend to generalize and stereoptype if they are feeling insecure or inexperienced. Tend to ... I am not going to generalize here.  That being said.  Here is a crone's wisdom:

Poeple, men or women want relationships with like minded segnificant others who will appreicate them, accept them and feel affection for them.  They want to feel emotionally safe with the other person and feel secure with the relationship.  To do this, one must offer the same to that person and be sincere.  This is after all the fluff of appearence that fades, money that could go away at any moment and popularity that also fades. Passion is the driving force in youth and companionship later on ... although the passion doesn't go away. 

Read between the lines a bit as this is an "all ages" forum. I guess being someone who is in a committed relationship that has had many ups and downs and has lasted 43 years ... all I can say is seek someone with simalar interests.  develope a friendship and move to something more lasting ... be willing to compramize and be giving.  You will recieve if genuine and if the other person isn't a taker.  Keep in mind that we all have our baggage and shold be considerate of that. 

IF this helps let me know.  IF you are sincere.  All the women want this and men want that is just shallow nonesence ... go for someone who shares your interests and beliefs and you got a good beginning.

Boni 

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Gareee posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 1:09 PM

Quote - GAREEE!  I almost shot Gatorade out my nostrils!

See? There's another great skill!

How far can you shoot it? Can you hit a bullseye at 10 paces?

Way too many people take way too many things way too seriously.


SteveJax posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 1:32 PM

Wanders in and plants some eggs.


obm890 posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 1:35 PM

Quote - Assuming this isn't a "bate" or a joke, because I don't want to go on and feel like an idiot for offering some hearfelf advice.

I'm almost certain it is just baiting. It seems to be a regular pattern with tebop/JosterD, ask a stupid off-topic question and then sit back with popcorn and watch the forum regulars provide entertainment for a few days. When there's no more action in that thread he asks another equally stupid question and the cycle starts again. When he gets accused of being too far off topic he drops in something about poser, then it's back to the I-suck questions.

The only way to break the cycle is if everyone ignores these threads and lets them drop down the page unanswered. Even if these posts are genuine it's a waste of time offering advice, the best advice is clearly being ignored, ie: "Turn off your computer and get out into the real world"



cyberscape posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 1:58 PM

"Women only like guys who are experts at their hobby?"

 

Wow man! Where do you GET this stuff? All my hobbies have ever gotten me are needy freeloaders who want shit for free. Yeah sure, the occassional oohs! or ahhs! (makes jerk off motion with hand) but seriously, what Boni just said I couldn't say any better. As for whether or not a woman likes what you do as a hobby, meh... I've never met one who cared enough either way to affect our relationship.

Case in point, my (seriously outdated)gallery shows that I'm really good with pencil and paper. The number of women I have attracted with this talent? Zero!

My musical skills include being able to play VanHalen's "Eruption" solo on an 8 string guitar. The number of women who have shown any real interest in this? Yup, zero!

I used to play in a rock band for over 2 years and then I DJed a lot in various dance clubs. Again, the number of women who farted sideways to a dime over it? Nada!

What does get a woman's attention for me is, having confidence in myself and (this is important) NOT bragging about what I can do.

Now, (somebody already said this)using your hobbies to build your confidence up for real life? This can definitely work! As for women, they will notice the confidence and like that but, they really won't care about where you got the confidence from.

Good luck!

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Laylah posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 2:24 PM

My husband can not walk, could not walk when we met either due to an accident that left his spine severly damaged, he really has no hobbies that I could admire him for... he likes to read. And hells I did not marry this man for his hobbies but the fact that he is kind, an awesome conversation partner, a great listener and always supportive of me no matter what it is I do. Besides he could draw stickfigures with fingerpaints on little post it's I would still love him all the same.


Miss Nancy posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 2:28 PM

these O.T. threads demonstrate why an "ignore button" won't work here:  they have some kind of irresistable draw on users, even though they always turn out the same.  what users are really expressing when they request an "ignore button" is the age-old desire to get rid of people, to hound them out, to exclude them.  fortunately, those days are long past, as the site has evolved to tolerate users of all kinds.



Gareee posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 2:40 PM

Am I mixing up Tebop with Teyon?

Way too many people take way too many things way too seriously.


lesbentley posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 2:45 PM

Quote - I feel like most Women would be impressed and interested in guys like YOU

You mean me?

Yes, it's such a curse. When I go out of the house, I have to carry a big stick to beat them of with, and when I go into town I need to wear a balaclava so I am not recognised. Just last week three of them climbed up the drain pipe and managed to force the catch on my bedroom window. I'm sure you can imagine how annoyed I was when I went to bed and found it already occupied by three naked wimmin bent on performing acts of sexual depravity on by body. I had to call the police to remove them.

I deeply envy those who can lead a normal life, free of sexual harassment. Pity us poor men who are victims of lust, who must forever hide in the shadows, never daring to show our faces in the world!

Wait! What's that sound? Sounds like an alarm clock! Surely it's not time to wake up already?!?


cyberscape posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 3:01 PM

@Les - LOL!

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Paul Francis posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 4:05 PM

I got a magazine cover published with a Poser image of mine.  Since then, I can tell you I have to beat them off with a shitty stick.  Man, them chicks just love my 3D skills....!  And don't even get me started on sexy posing, it's just too dangerous.

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pzrite posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 4:09 PM

tebop, I really think (and I mean this with all sincerity) that you need to get off the computer and Internet for awhile, get out of the house, and just live!  Weren't you the one complaining about not having a girlfriend?  Well you're not going to find one in this forum, especially the way you keep putting yourself down.

It's quite obvious you have a need for attention, you are probably lonely, but cyber friends are just a poor excuse for not living life to it's fullest.   Get out there.  Take some pictures, go to a museum, join a local group with similar interests.  Nothing beats face to face social interaction.

What is your current situation?  Do you live alone, with family, roomates?  If you are stuck for answers I suggest seeking professional help, posting your personal problems in a Poser forum is not going to make things better....for anybody!


Boni posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 4:37 PM

Hea, thanks for the heads up on the sourse of this thread.  Who knows maybe I'm just a sucker for these threads once in a while.  I do spend a lot of time on the computer because I'm waiting for renders to finish ... and I'm trying to set up my online business.  It's fun to follow silly posts and sincere ones too. :)

Boni

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nruddock posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 5:05 PM

Quote - ... get out of the house, and just live!

Or at the very least, treat yourself to a trip to the nearest DVD store 😉


SteveJax posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 6:46 PM

Quote - Am I mixing up Tebop with Teyon?

 

Yes.


tebop posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 9:04 PM

Thanks all for all your input. I gotta say it's really hard to find a girl these days. They always with their ipods , can't even talk to them. That or texting.

As for the persons who mentioned "you need to find a girl with similar interests and start a friendship and then...." Well you mean i have to find a girl who is into graphics??

I mean that's my interest so...


EClark1894 posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 10:18 PM

Quote - Thanks all for all your input. I gotta say it's really hard to find a girl these days. They always with their ipods , can't even talk to them. That or texting.

As for the persons who mentioned "you need to find a girl with similar interests and start a friendship and then...." Well you mean i have to find a girl who is into graphics??

I mean that's my interest so...

Hopefully, that's not your ONLY interest. Do you like music, food, movies, theater, reading, dancing or singing?




Miss Nancy posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 10:23 PM

here's my recommendation: some lady age 25 - 45 in the L.A. area who reads this forum and wants to meet some new guys should send OP an IM about meeting OP for a date at starbucks or some other cafe or bistro with wifi, where they could talk about poser, rendering, animation et al. and have a good time.  it might be really fun, they could bring their laptop - why not try it?  or somebody in the L.A. area could have a party and invite local users.  they've done it in the frisco area (PDRB), hence it might work down south.



patorak3d posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 10:42 PM

Miss Nancy should one share their complete runtime on the first date?

 

 


TheOwl posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 10:51 PM

This is what you need. Get busy!

 

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patorak3d posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 11:01 PM

Damn!  i clicked on it and got parked.  Oh well maybe it's a sign from Poses the law giver.

 

 


Cage posted Thu, 19 May 2011 at 11:30 PM

Dear Little Red-Haired Girl,

In lieu of a valentine this year, I have decided to show you how skilled I am at my hobby.  I have prepared this exquisite 3D potrait of you, holding a sword in a temple.  The nudity is artistic in intent, and it highlights the realistic skin shader.

Love, Charlie Brown

 

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ShawnDriscoll posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 1:49 AM

Quote - I'm thinking because i feel alot of you guys are experts in 3D. You have a lot of technical skill. you know about making textures, rigging figures, setting up bones, modeling,render engines, etc etc. I feel like most Women would be impressed and interested in guys like YOU ,  i feel that many women would be attracted to guys with great 3D skills.

What do you guys think?

In the past, whenever I showed a woman just a WIP of a nude female 3D model I made in Hexagon, they wanted to be my girlfriend the next day.  I'm not a sculpter.  But I am curious if women feel the same way after seeing a nude female marble sculpture?

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aeilkema posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 4:41 AM

Quote - Women only like Guys who are experts at their hobby?

 

No, they don't.... women prefer men who don't have too many hobbies and sure aren't experts at them. Such a man has time for a woman, a man who's only into hobbies, work and so on, doesn't give his lady enough attention.

Secondly, if you want to get a woman, drop poser from your hobbies, at least if you're into nudes.... don't talk about it at all when dating. Don't tell them know that you play with digital nudes, they will think you're a pervert and porn addict. If you really want to impress a girl with poser, drop the nudes and make romantic or tear jerking stuff instead. You know, holding hand scenes or sunset scenes with poems and such..... with clothed people.

 

But the best advice I can give you, is shut down your computer for a few weeks. don't even touch it anymore and get out of the house, meet with real people..... perhaps even seek some help?

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EClark1894 posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 5:39 AM

Let's go another route, Tebop. Since you seem to be online and in front of your computer anyway, have you considered going to one of the online services like Match.com? If you're looking for women with similar interests, that's what they do.




ShawnDriscoll posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 12:41 PM

Women want current photos of you if you do the Match.com thing.  Just so you know, Tebop.  They won't reply back otherwise.

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nruddock posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 12:43 PM

Attached Link: http://www.renderosity.com/mod/forumpro/showthread.php?thread_id=2827139

> Quote - Let's go another route, Tebop. Since you seem to be online and in front of your computer anyway, have you considered going to one of the online services like Match.com? If you're looking for women with similar interests, that's what they do.

And that takes us back to where we came in.


SamTherapy posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 1:10 PM

Quote - Women want current photos of you if you do the Match.com thing.  Just so you know, Tebop.  They won't reply back otherwise.

I'd be sunk if I sent one.  I haven't shaved in over a week so I look like a serial killer.  :lol:

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geep posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 1:58 PM

Quote - > Quote - Women want current photos of you if you do the Match.com thing.  Just so you know, Tebop.  They won't reply back otherwise.

I'd be sunk if I sent one.  I haven't shaved in over a week so I look like a serial killer.  :lol:

Yeah, but what if .............. the girl/woman is looking for someone like that? :lol:

sorry, couldn't resist ... ;=]

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patorak3d posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 3:21 PM

Would Wendy's be all right to take some one on a first date.  Just wondering cuz i love that restaurant.

 

 


pzrite posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 5:09 PM

Troll Class system by Pzrite (aka Leee)

Troll (First Class) - a person who posts outlandish and/or mean-spirited messages for the sole purpose of causing anger among the other posters, consequently drawing a large amount of attention to him/herself, which is usually the root reason for trolling. This type of troll will very rarely respond directly to logical discussion of the topic at hand.
[Example: Hitler's greatest mistake was he didn't finish the job]

Troll (Second Class) - a person who will post slightly more logical and tame comments than the First Class troll.  Even though it may seem this person has valid opinions for the topic at hand, they are still meant to draw attention, create anger and controversy.  This person will sometimes respond to comments, but only to further inflame the discussion.
[Example: I don't think we went to the moon because.....]

Troll (Third Class) - a person considered to be borderline troll.  While this person will not necessarily post inflammatory comments, they are still meant to illicit a response/reaction/attention to the poster.  While some Third Class Trolls are genuine in their beliefs or statements, they don't always directly answer the responses or if they do, they will continue along the same self-absorbed path, disregarding the replies posted to him.   Third Class Trolls are also capable of posting "normal" messages within a forum that do not seek attention for merely attention's sake.
[Example: I can't seem to find a girlfriend, can someone tell me what to do?]

Note: This classification system has not been authorized or sanctioned by the IITS (International Institute of Troll Studies) it is merely for educational and/or entertainment purposes only.*

 


nruddock posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 5:51 PM

Quote - Troll Class system by Pzrite (aka Leee)...

Not too bad a summary, see also -> The Field Guide to Trolls


pzrite posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 6:29 PM

Quote - > Quote - Troll Class system by Pzrite (aka Leee)...

Not too bad a summary, see also -> The Field Guide to Trolls

Thanks for the link.  That information is kind of along the same lines that I was going for, only a LOT more detailed and descriptive.  But then again, I did just create my "Class System" off the top of my head. ;-)

Wikipedia did not have nearly as much information as The Field Guide, and I wanted to add my Class System to it, but that topic has been locked due to excessive vandalism by trolls.  Oh the irony!


Miss Nancy posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 6:43 PM

wendy's would be o.k. as long as one didn't eat any of the hi-cal. "food" there and they've got wifi.  whether the chap shaves or even has a goatee like brad pitt may not matter that much. YMMV.



Acadia posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 7:22 PM

sigh

 

Tebop, you seem like a nice guy.  If you seriously want to be friends with a girl, and possibly in a romantic relationship with one, there is only one way you are going to get that to happen.  Asking the same question a dozen different ways and using aliases to do so,  isn't going to get you any closer to your goal.

Turn off your computer and go get involved in life!!! 

Join a community leisure program through your City's Parks and Recreation Department. Many are free to join.  Sign up to volunteer for sports events or festivals.  Get a dog, or offer to walk other peoles' dogs. Take them for walks and to the park where you will find other dog lovers there playing with their dogs. Go to poetry or book readings, music festivals, outdoor concerts, charity events, museums, art galleries  etc etc etc.

When at any of these places, just be yourself!!! Don't try to be someone you are not.  Sit down and enjoy yourself!! That's number one!  Casually talk to people, both men and women.  Idle chit chat. Don't start asking them personal questions or spilling your guts about your life. Just idle chit chat about the event, how much fun you are having.

Tebop, I don't know how old you are. You come across in your posts, at least to me, as being very young....teenager maybe.  But you also mentioned in some of your posts that you are "old."  I don't recall ever seeing you say exactly how old you are.  So I'm going to assume you are somewhere in between.  I'm going to assume that you are probably around 30 years old and still a virgin. 

My best advice to you at this point, because you seem terrified and awkward where women are concerned is to go and hire a prostitute. Yes!!!. I'm dead serious about that!!!  You don't  have to do anything with them other than sit and talk with them to get you comfortable talking to women! Take them to a coffee shop and buy them some coffee and sit and chat with them for an hour.  Yes, you will still have to pay them for their time.   However, this will get you used to approaching women and interacting with them.  And when you feel ready to progress, you can proceed to the sex part. Don't forget to practice safer sex by using condoms.

If you live near Carson City, Nevada, you can even visit one of their legal brothels there: Moonlite Bunny Ranch.* *

After that, you should be able to break out of your shell a little and not be so terrified of talking to women.

You might also try the "online relationship" thing. Some people are happy to be romantically involved with someone online and on the phone and consider themselves boy friend-girl friend for months and years at a time.  At the very least it will get you comfortable communicating with a girl.

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Acadia posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 7:27 PM

Also, check out this "ask men" website. You could do with some serious confidence building. Maybe they can help you with that.

 

http://www.askmen.com/money/body_and_mind_60/77_better_living.html

 

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi



pzrite posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 7:42 PM

Acadia, I think it's great that you took the time for such a caring and detailed post, but as with my post (on the other thread) I spent about as much time and basically covered the same ground that you did.  When I received absolutely no response from the OP I knew I had wasted my time and effort. 

Because I know if I put myself in his place and asked for this kind of help from an online community, I would be very appreciative of the advice and comments given to me, and I would have AT LEAST said "Thank you, I'll give it a try" or "Thank you, that doesn't seem right for me".   But as I said before, the OP continues in his self-absorbed comments, repeating the same things over and over again as if he didn't even read any of the suggestions.

I think this person is greatly enjoying all the attention he is getting, but if he truly wanted to pursue his goals on meeting a woman he would have been more recipricative in his responses.

Bottom line, IMHO, there is no reason to spend any more time or energy in helping this person unless we get some sort of response to our suggestions and questions.  And the lack of responses to specific questions would leave me to believe either we're dealing with a troll or someone that is just wanting some attention and is not seriously interested in our responses.


Acadia posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 9:08 PM

Quote - Acadia, I think it's great that you took the time for such a caring and detailed post, but as with my post (on the other thread) I spent about as much time and basically covered the same ground that you did.  When I received absolutely no response from the OP I knew I had wasted my time and effort. 

Because I know if I put myself in his place and asked for this kind of help from an online community, I would be very appreciative of the advice and comments given to me, and I would have AT LEAST said "Thank you, I'll give it a try" or "Thank you, that doesn't seem right for me".   But as I said before, the OP continues in his self-absorbed comments, repeating the same things over and over again as if he didn't even read any of the suggestions.

I think this person is greatly enjoying all the attention he is getting, but if he truly wanted to pursue his goals on meeting a woman he would have been more recipricative in his responses.

Bottom line, IMHO, there is no reason to spend any more time or energy in helping this person unless we get some sort of response to our suggestions and questions.  And the lack of responses to specific questions would leave me to believe either we're dealing with a troll or someone that is just wanting some attention and is not seriously interested in our responses.

 

Bears repeating!

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi



tebop posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 9:41 PM

I'm listening to what you guys say.


cyberscape posted Fri, 20 May 2011 at 10:28 PM

...but are you comprehending it?

 

There's a lot of good advice in here (better than what I came up with), yet no response from you on whether or not it's helping. IS any of it helping?

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scanmead posted Sat, 21 May 2011 at 7:33 AM

WTF?? No. Well, maybe bagginsbill... but he gets paid for his work, so not really.

I concur. Turn off the machine. Go do something. Anything. The more you're around people, the better your odds of actually talking to someone. It may take 5 minutes, 5 weeks, or 5 months.

*watching Paul Francis beating women off with sticks...

*wating for piccies of Sam looking like Jack Sparrow....


Acadia posted Sat, 21 May 2011 at 9:08 AM

Quote - I'm listening to what you guys say.

 

Then participate!!!!!!!!!!

Sitting on the sidelines "listening" or on a forum it's called "lurking", isn't going to do you any good.

Instead of coming here and posting Off Topic questions and then sitting back doing nothing, start participating in discussions, especially if it's a thread that you started!

I'm sure you can see how it would come across to people that you are trolling if you just come here and post Off Topic  questions and then seem to vanish from the topic?  If you don't see, I'm telling you that it does.

Participating will get you used to interacting, at least in a text media,  with different people.

"It is good to see ourselves as others see us. Try as we may, we are never
able to know ourselves fully as we are, especially the evil side of us.
This we can do only if we are not angry with our critics but will take in good
heart whatever they might have to say." - Ghandi



pzrite posted Sat, 21 May 2011 at 12:17 PM

tebop, from the time I posted my first suggestion about placing a personal ad (in my opinion the easiest way to meet women with similar interests) you could have already placed the ad, been communicating with at least several women, and perhaps been on your first or second date by now.

Personal ads and reputable online dating sites are a no-brainer.  Submit your picture, tell a little about yourself, while at the same time respond to other ads that are of interest to you.  It is so easy once you are willing to put yourself out there.  If I could do it, anyone can.

Now I'm stuck with a wife and kids, so be careful what you wish for.  (just kidding)


Plutom posted Sat, 21 May 2011 at 4:35 PM

Title: Do women like men with 3D talent.

I have been sitting back and reading all of the suggestions and have come to the conclusion that my way is the best and is accomplished by faithfully following the below steps.

The best way (which is 99.524 percent effective) into seducing your Vicky err girl is to follow these easy instructions:

First: Have several billion dollars in your savings account. The first billion is the hardest. However, every man can achieve this with time or wise investments in a mutual fund managed by your local friendly investment manager. The best is a little known fund called Monolith Mutual Funds (MMF for short) managed by I.M. Ponzi with has had established returns of over 50 percent for early investors.  Of course past performance is no indication of future performances and involuntary confinement is possible.

Second: Craigs’ List is a valuable source for the right person or persons for you. There are many extremely beautiful Vickies just waiting to meet and become your soul mate or mates. You may need to check out your local and friendly Private Business Interprise Network's (PBIN) list for customer satisfaction ratings.

Your local PBIN, in this case, may be sponsored by police avoidance syndicates. 

Third: The initial date, pick her or them up in your favorite Beamer, escort to the airport and fly via your favorite Gulfstream to one of your homes in the Caymans or Bahamas. She or they will probably not mind which. Additionally, a token monetary gift inversely proportional to ones hygiene level for each may go a long way in breaking the ice! Repeat process if necessary.

There are certain adverse conditions that may come up, but don't worry be happy and get regular checkups, most conditions can be easily cured or managed.

That is all that there is to it!  Jan

 


scanmead posted Sat, 21 May 2011 at 4:37 PM

Acadia has a point. There's a huge difference between "Posing Grand Question: Discuss", and hey, guys, what's your opinion on this.... and then actually taking the time to acknowlege responses. After not showing up, people get the impression it's not all that important or interesting to the OP. You sorta/kinda want a date, but not enough to actually do something about it. And that's where people get the "troll" impression, because that's what trolls do.

I don't care how shy or insecure you are, no one is gonna kill you for participating in your own thread. As far as that goes, no one is gonna kill you for saying "Hi!" on the street, either. Not in most neighborhoods, anyway.

Some might say we write our own destinies: act like you expect rejection, that's what you get. Be open and friendly, and it eventually pays off.