For my neighbour Denise (1932-2008)
by D.C.Monteny
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It was 1978 when we moved in next door to Denise
She was in her 40's then, her husband still alive
Linda's parents bought the house, a small fisherman's
Cottage, to get me away from the big bad city
Until then I lived above a pub smack in the middle
Of the red light district. Guess they thought
If our girl is too much in love to see any sense
We might as well shack them up in a more quiet place
Well, I was pretty wild back then, so our house soon
Became a meeting place for all my weird friends
Punks, Hells Angels, right wing militants, you name it
They all came by and I guess we made a terrible racket
Now this first year was pretty romantic too
We slept under the roof tiles with a little window
Right above our bed. There wasn't any heating
One day we woke up with snow on our pile of blankets
Then we moved out for a year, while Linda's parents
Had the cottage demolished and a brand new house
Build on top of it. By then I had lost my sharpest edge
When we moved back in, Denise must have been relieved
Over the following years our relation got more close
We would talk to each other on the balcony, in the garden
On the street, and never did we have any arguments
Seldom we visited each others houses, we both liked solitude
Still, one time I took in a heroine addict for two weeks
Giving this friend of mine a chance to get his life back on track
Now that was a chaotic and often raucous fourteen days
But when we explained she seemed alright with it
Even so, we always kept our music at a reasonable level
And even on wild XTC weekends during the early nineties
As stoned as I was, I had Denise in the back of my mind
So we partied on a chill-out level, respecting her nights rest
I never quite understood why she was so friendly to me
I imagine many other neighbors would have called in the cops
Then on a sunny morning after talking to Linda in the garden
All this explained itself and it came as quite a surprise to me
During that first year I started living next door to Denise
She broke her foot, and she had to help herself on two crutches
And according to her, I asked her if I could help with her errands
Now, I've forgotten all about that (the booze...), but she didn't
After that I could never do anything wrong to Denise
She had made up her mind and I was a descent type of guy
No matter what I came up with, she only saw the good in me
At a time when I was personally unsure of my own mental health
As both Linda and I grew older, our mutual respect deepened
And when Denise heard that I had developed lung cancer
That must have hit her into the deepest fiber of her soul
As she had lost her husband in 1984 as a result of the same dragon
Finally at the start of last year , the dragon entered her life as well
There was the inevitable chemo therapy, which withered away the strength
Of this courageous lady. Now we talked to each other on the telephone
Giving each other courage and the determination not to give up easily
The last time I saw her was when she rang my doorbell four weeks ago
Under her arm was a fine bottle of red wine, for me and Linda to share
The last time Linda saw her was in hospital, a few days before her death
Still optimistic as ever, all she talked about was going back home
Well, it wasn't to be, she died on 22 February, and when I heard
I felt as upset as if a close family member would have died
It hurt much more than I ever would have imagined possible
She was a wise and friendly woman who taught me the most
Important thing in life
Tolerance...
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Thank you for reading this and any comments you might have. It's not realy much of a poem or even short story, but i had to get this out of my system. I'll miss her and her beautiful smile...
Dirk
Comments (20)
danway
Very beautiful and touching.
Gaiadriel
Hmm..not much of a poem or even short story, you say. I can put stock in all of your words but those. So, I respectfully disagree on that point. It's tender, frank, and penned with profound affection, respect, and care...from start to finish..much as you've described Denise, herself. It's a delight and privilege, to see into such a rare and precious soul, so thank you for the sharing. I hope this helps as you eventually make your way through this loss, my friend, extracting the beautiful meaningfulness and the valuable lessons (far more than just that one here) gifted. (((Dirk)))
dhanco
Fine and beautiful words. A perfect tribute to your friend, Denise. I'm sure she is proud that she knew you and is now in a wonderful, pain-free place. Wonderful and emotion words. Life is more fragile than we sometimes realize. Live each day to the fullest.
tennesseecowgirl
Brought me to tears... Very beautiful, amazing how different people can touch our lifes and mean so much.. Hugss to you ...
bpclarke
I have often said, friends are the family we get to choose. She was a part of your little family and had a sunny place in your heart as you had in hers. You were both lucky to have known and cared about each other in this way. Good neighbors and friends are far and few between. Thank you for sharing this story. Bunny
amota99517
Your story is touching and speaks to the heart. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. Denise was a great woman.
three_grrr
Some friends ARE family. Denise was one such, respected, adored, and nurtured over time. God Speed, Denise.
mgtins
What a wonderful tribute to Denise and a great testament to the power of friendship. I have no doubt that you will miss her. I am sorry for your loss....
auntietk
I've lost too many good friends to cancer ... I understand why you wrote this. It's beautifully done - a very special piece of writing.
fractalinda
A beautifully written and tenderly expressed tribute, Dirk. We should all learn from this long-term exchange true neighborly love. I'm sorry for your significant loss.
beachzz
A very moving tribute to a wonderful woman. You've honored her well here, may she rest in peace and may you keep her in your heart forever.
Juliette.Gribnau
thanx for sharing Dirk.. I am sitting here with no words, than that my heart goes out to you
artice
LOVELY TRIBUTE TO A VERY TENDER HEARTED SOUL-PLACED IN YOUR PATH TO HELP YOU ALONG YOUR JOURNEY..:)
RodolfoCiminelli
A touching and excellent homage Dirk....!!!!
meico
I'm so moved, I'm speechless. Mike
CavalierLady
A moving and touching story. People come in and out of our lives for a reason, and it's obvious that this lady was a special person. A most lovely tribute to your friend, I'm sure she smiling from wherever she is.
Dinhi
Thank you for sharing this relationship Dirk, it rings very true for many of us and those we encounter and continue to meet in our lives. [=
dragonmuse
Some family we choose (or they choose us), not by blood, but by heart.. they are the ones we care about most. {{{hugs}}}
Cosine
Thank you for sharing this, Dirk. It's a wonderfully moving story about the best of neighbors. I'm sorry for your loss; I hope you can take some solace from having known her.
avalonfaayre
My brother succumbed to 'The Dragon'. He never even told us he was battling lung cancer. He gave up without a fight. I have a huge problem with that.