eclark1894

Extraordinary

I must have awakened on the right side of the bed this morning. I feel super pumped up about Poser and the community as a whole and in general. We just have to remember that as a community, while we all have diverging interests, and different likes and dislikes, we still have more in common with each other than different. Let's make the Poser Community Great Again!!!!

That would be awesome! :)

Been there in the good old days and visiting forums at that time was the treat of my day! :)

Rena

When did it get bad? People here are great.

Kindness is never a bad thing. <3

Cheers for you!!! Yes! Things are going much better here. We have a couple "stinkers" trying to mess things up, but we are also keeping an eye on them. Thank you for starting a nice thread!

Let me suggest we share images of projects we received help on ... as a way to thank those who've helped us achieve our personal greatness!

This if to bagginsbill, who has helped us all! Working on getting better renders of hair in SF!

Good on yer, mate!

May all your doughnuts turn out like Fanny's. (Google it.)

Yeah, I'm just not feeling it anymore. I woke yesterday feeling great about everything, especially the Poser community. Then yesterday, the roof fell in on me at Hivewire, and now I'm in a funk so big I'm seriously thinking about just chucking it all and leaving. I don't need this crap. Especially when all I was trying to do was to keep the peace. Screw it!!

Well, it's your call but the place will be poorer without you. I've always considered you a friend, even when we disagree.

I don't know. It's sad when the forums get so negative over some new character. I think if there are more supportive comments that figures can be fixed and made even better. The weight mapped releases of characters are great work! And the skin texture python scripts and node work are fantastic! I wish when characters are released they get constructive criticism rather than straight out anger or disappointment. I feel like the Charlie Brown Christmas tree speech here runs off to hide

SamTherapy posted at 3:32PM Thu, 10 August 2017 - #4311830

Well, it's your call but the place will be poorer without you. I've always considered you a friend, even when we disagree.

I'll get over it eventually. I guess I'm just really cheesed off that I was having a really good day, feeling good about the community, and then... I feel like I got mugged.

EClark,

I followed that thread at the Hive too, and IMO what you posted were words of good reason. Nothing wrong with them. But you just can't help it if certain people want to misunderstand your words just to stir up a fight.

As Boni already said we all know the usual trolls and troublemakers. In an ideal world we all would just ignore their posts, and without any response to their posts they would soon leave. "Don't feed the trolls!" Unfortunately this isn't an ideal world, and at some point someone will reply, and then the shit hits the fan again.

However, I have a saying for you that I first read a really long time ago, on one of the old BBS boards:

Don't let the bastards grind you down!

Print that out and hang it right next to your screen. It helped me!

Finally, I'd just like to thank you for being you.

Take care, and "Don't ... !" ;)

Karina

KarinaKiev posted at 7:44PM Thu, 10 August 2017 - #4311843

EClark,

I followed that thread at the Hive too, and IMO what you posted were words of good reason. Nothing wrong with them. But you just can't help it if certain people want to misunderstand your words just to stir up a fight.

As Boni already said we all know the usual trolls and troublemakers. In an ideal world we all would just ignore their posts, and without any response to their posts they would soon leave. "Don't feed the trolls!" Unfortunately this isn't an ideal world, and at some point someone will reply, and then the shit hits the fan again.

However, I have a saying for you that I first read a really long time ago, on one of the old BBS boards:

Don't let the bastards grind you down!

Print that out and hang it right next to your screen. It helped me!

Finally, I'd just like to thank you for being you.

Take care, and "Don't ... !" ;)

Karina

That's just it, Karina. Two of those people who "misunderstood" my words aren't trolls. They're people who I have very high regard and respect for. For them to accuse me of what they said... well it hurt.... deeply.

IMHO, I have found that forums like emails can be misinterpreted. Be careful what you put into either format.

For example: Hi, How are you? What you been up to? Homer

Interpreted: "What do you mean "how am I? I'm fine, why shouldn't I be. What are you implying? And where do you get the nerve to poke around in my business! What I've been up to is of no concern to you. It's personal and stay out of it, you wretched disgusting human being. I have unfriended you and tried to get you banned from Facebook."

Ignore the naysayers.

EClark1849 posted at 8:45PM Fri, 11 August 2017 - #4311837

SamTherapy posted at 3:32PM Thu, 10 August 2017 - #4311830

Well, it's your call but the place will be poorer without you. I've always considered you a friend, even when we disagree.

I'll get over it eventually. I guess I'm just really cheesed off that I was having a really good day, feeling good about the community, and then... I feel like I got mugged.

Sorry to hear that. PM if you want to vent.

We all have "language" we've grown up with. I read books about relationships by Leo Buscaglia back in the 70's and 80's that helped me understand this. We all have "trigger" phrases that make us defensive that are innocent to anyone else. Sometimes, especially when we can't hear inflections or see faces we misinterpret what is being said. Imoji's were originally used to fill this communication gap, but sadly doesn't always work. I may be out of line here, but perhaps if these folks who hurt your feelings were communicated with privately (if their relationship has that much value to you) and work this out it would help. Or let time iron things out if that is what is more comfortable for you ... as gender expectations are also unique, I know men tend to not want to discuss "feelings" with each other. Excuse me if I'm stereotyping, it is a tendency not a hard fast rule. I've found kindness to be the best policy, even when someone is on the defensive ... unless they are truly trolls, in which case it's pointless.

I misunderstood a member here when I first became a moderator ... too eager I suppose ... and sited him for a TOS image ... he pointed out the details of the TOS and I was the one who was off. We are now good friends after almost 2 years of "socializing".

I am sorry your feelings were hurt Earl, you are a good contributor to the community and many consider you a friend. I hope this settles for you and your days become more joyous again.

Moth