I did all the conforming and all that and hten when i rendered these dots show up..how can i get rid of them??

It look's like they're what's known as "Body Handles".
They are used to pose items of clothing.
Check the ReadMe that came with the clothing for instructions on how to make them invisible (usually changing the settings for a particular material to fully transparent).
The clothing creator may also have provided a MAT pose to turn them off.

Might also be on the hair.

If this isn't right, then post a close up of the head and shoulders.

There should be files in the MAT poses folder for that costume to turn these bodyhandles on and off. Look in Poses / Spywear MAT files (if you haven't reorganised or renamed the folders. Quoting from the included readme: "WHAT ARE BODYHANDLES? Bodyhandles are bodyparts not intended to be rendered that allow advance posing of the figure where traditional bodyparts are not appropriate. They allow movement without morphs. They have their own material and should be made invisible prior to rendering."

thanks i'll get ta lookin i know i saw these that (vgg posted) i just hope i didnt delete them when i dumped some files i couldnt use...