This one was written on a challenge by a member of another forum. He told me to write as per the husband's POV. ************************* Ladies, I am very sorry to have caused you both pain. Pain at the way I handled things. You see, I did not want to hurt anyone with my actions as I love you both, but the very thing I wanted not to do, happened. To my wife, I had no intentions of cheating on you when I met her. I just knew that I enjoyed talking to her and thrived on her listening to what I actually said and not what my apparent hidden message was. She made me look forward to getting up in the morning, she took away the routine life, the 'stuck in a rut' existance that we had been living for so long. You were precious to me, but I felt only half a man. If you had shown your appreciation of what I did for you and asked for something instead of the negative way you spoke about it when you needed it, I would have moved the moon closer to the earth for you. I have fallen in love with a beautiful woman who inspires me to move the moon. She laughs and smiles at me for no reason other that she is happy with life. This makes me high with joy in return. I know you loved me. Just realize that I did love you very much. But in a marriage you have to work at what you want to keep. I stopped working at it when I realised you had too. I understand that two wrongs don't make a right but when you give 100% and only get a little back in return you start wondering why and act accordingly. I know I made mistakes. My biggest one was not ending with you before getting involved with her. For that I am deeply sorry. It was made right as soon as I could. She also felt pain as it was you I went home to at the end of the day. I did not see why you were so distressed, so stressed. I should have taken more of the burden on my own plate instead of waiting to be asked. I was afraid of stepping across boundaries that you had put up. So I stopped communicating. For this I am truly ashamed. I am glad you now have time to find yourself again. I hope that when you are happier with yourself and your new life, that we may be friends again, as you were my best friend in the beginning. I still miss that you. All I ask is that you don't destroy my relationship with our children. Don't poison their minds with your bitterness of our relationship. Let them make up their own minds about their father when they are old enough to understand. To my love, thank you for helping me find myself again. Thank you for caring about me and that, despite the hurt I caused, you still hung in there. You still supported me and backed my decisions until the timing was right for me. Thank you for listening and sharing your precious life with me. It is such an amazing feeling living in a joyful atmosphere where one is wanted and needed. I wish I could share this with my children but they belong with their mother right now. I pray that she finds and feels a little of the joy I have now so she may share it with them. Should I step onto a path that does not feel right to you, please let me know. I need to be told with truth and love so I may give back tenfold what I am given. I know I may make mistakes again, but with your love and positive attitude I have faith that we will survive together. In hope The man. ******************************* And now a very important voice in the series.... ******************************* Dear Mom and Dad. Do you know that you both have scarred me for life? Do you realised that by giving up on each other instead of working through your problems, I have learnt that it is OK to be lazy and use the easy way out? Do you even understand what emotional hangups I am going to have because I now have to deal with the guilt and the mental manipulation you both inflict on me on a daily basis? Despite that fact that it was you two who ended the marriage I feel guilty at existing. I feel that I am a burden to be passed across from one to the other. I love you both, but I hate how you act with each other now. You have both turned cold and hard, not like the loving couple that I was privilaged to know when I was younger. So what do I do? I act out at school. You know why I get so many detentions, Mom? Because you pay attention to me and actually spend time speaking to me even if it is in a loud accusing voice. You then acknowledge my existance when I get home. Did you know that when I got full marks in a test and told you, you absently patted my head and said 'good boy' then went on reading your book? Wake up Mom. Your marriage may be dead but we sure as hell are not! Wake up before you lose us too! And Dad. You are not innocent in this either. You made Mom feel lousy with your 'couldn't care' attitude. You killed her self worth and her confidence. No wonder she turned into a mouse. What a role model you turned out to be. Do you realise that the woman you are with is only six years older than me? Talk about a mid life crisis. Do you really know what you want out of life? Though I am only 14 years old, I take full responsibility for myself and my brothers. I will see that they are loved and cared for with or without your help. When you are ready to be part of the family again, just hope and pray that we will be ready to accept you back as our parents. In anger Your son.