JOHNNY 12.16.2010 by mikeerson
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DECEMBER 16TH, 2010... I made it back to work Thursday - first time since Sept 8Th (Hernia)... when I got home My Wife's cousin called and asked if we could pick him up some 7up, Gatorade, Popsicles, Ice and tp, he had been sick and throwing up the day before. He believed it was food poisoning. He had ordered a beef dish from an oriental restaurant. We picked up the stuff and went over to his place. He answered the door right away. We went in and his appearance looked like a person suffering from a hangover - tired droopy eyes, a little sluggish, words slurred just enough to notice a difference. we put his items away. he had a 7up. went out to the front room and sat in a chair. he spit out some fluid that was clear, probably the 7up. His throat was soar from throwing up. He said thanks for getting the stuff. I told him he looked really skinny. he told us he hadn't thrown up in a couple hours and thought the 7up would help. he told us he was going to rest. We asked if he wanted to go to the Doctor and he thought drinking the 7up and resting would make him feel better. his cell phone rang and I handed it to him, it was his Dad so we said good bye.
when we got home, he called us a half hour later and said he was doing better.
less than 24 hours, his friend went over and found him dead on the couch. We are waiting on the autopsy results. I called work today and am off til Monday. He was only 37. He was My Wife's Cousin who came out to Colorado from Chicago hoping to be a part of his Daughter's life. My Wife had never met him before, but Johnny had worked With Holly's Dad many years ago. When Johnny arrived in Colorado at our home, it was Christmas Eve. He Came in and we showed him his room and asked if he wanted to go to church with us, he declined because he was tired. He stayed with us for about 4 months and found an apartment that touched our property line - it was the first lease he had ever signed. A new owner bought his complex and he was forced to move because of him owning a dog. He moved next door to where we could see his bedroom window from ours. He moved out to Colorado to be with his Daughter Emily. Sarah, his ex, moved out here thinking he wouldn't come. He was a good man and tried his best to be in his Daughter's life. He did finally decide to take her to court for visitation Rights. He won to where he could have her every other weekend. He wanted Emily to sleep over when he had her on the weekends and the Mother would not work with him. Yesterday the Mother stopped over and we talked for about 15 minutes, she left to go to the apartment complex to pick up Johnny's Dog Moe. At this point, We really don't know what he died from. My Wife is having a hard time with it and thinking we should of taken him to the Hospital - We really didn't see "the danger signs".
Since being at home from the hernia, I've spent a lot of time on the computer and Renderosity. I'm back to work now.... and with what has just happened with Johnny, My Wife needs my time, so I'm going to have to say good bye for now.
You know I'll be back, I love this place and my friends. I wish you all a Wonderful Merry Christmas and a Happy New year.
PS.... I know in the past when my friends here have lost a loved one I've encouraged them to keep posting, to help keep their mind on creativity instead of the reality... I would keep posting, but I need to spend time with my Wife - she needs me, thanks for spending the time to read, you are a caring person.
Comments (53)
momof4rugrats
completely understandable family is always first. hope things change for the better.i am a firm believer when its your time then its your time of course this never lessens the guilt but i still believe it.37 seems too young to go but his work here must have been done he can rest now.prayers to you and yours. hugs to your family.
renecyberdoc
my man you do nothing now except taking care of your wife hear me??. the most important now.you know where you can reach me. i hate all this shit which happens around xmas especially.
drifterlee
I'm really sorry to hear that, MIke. My prayers are with you. I hope they find out what killed him.
Stratkat
What a series of events. I can only say Wow, and I can see he is and was loved, and will be loved for ever. Momo, couldn't have said it better, when our time is done, it's done. And no it never feels that way to those of us left here. Another of LIFE'S mysteries. When my Father left, the day after Christmas 1996, he was waiting to open his christmas presents, for when we could all be there. We didn't make it, I didn't make it. Christmas has always carried this saddness ever since, but I know one loss here is a birth somewhere else. And Johnny along with all those that we lose daily, are sharing with a brand new family... Take care of those that love you and you love, and all will be as it's supposed to be. I can tell your heart is always in the right place. Condolences to all that share your loss. Peace!
magnus073
Mike, thi sis such a sad story and it really hit home with so many people here. First of all his daughter, you and your family are in my prayers during this time and please take all the time you need because family comes first. As for the guilt your feeling, trust me this happens more often than you know and is not your fault. Many times the person really does feel better, and have no idea that happens a lot right before people pass on. On the other hand some people never want to admit how bad they really are and in either case your not a mind reader or doctor and have no way of knowing. The important thing is you and your wife were there for him and being around people who really care about you before you go is the most imporant gift anyone could get.
RubyT
Take good care of your wife but please know we are here for you. I'm so sorry for this shocking loss.
Faemike55
Mike, I'm so sorry for this loss. You and Holly and the rest of the family are in my thoughts and prayers.
lyron
So sorry to hear that, Mike.
CaperGirl42
Oh wow so sad Mike- what a shame - so young....It reminds me of what my Dad went through...he passed on the 13th of December thinking that he as well had food poisining.He really had an abdominal aortic aneurysm.. So sorry Mike my thoughts and prayers are also with you , Holy and the rest of the Family... hugz anne
DangerousThing
I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself as well as your wife. - Jay
carlx
Very sad news, I'm very sorry, Mike!
vitachick
So sorry to hear the sad news. 37 so young.... Take care of the family, we will be here when you get back!
stick
I'm so sorry for your loss. Right now you take care of your wife and yourself. My prayers are with you all.
1010
What a tragic thing to happen. We just never know and it is always a shock. Please take care and hope your wife finds the comfort she needs from you Mike........
bakapo
oh, Mike, this is so sad... I'm so sorry for your loss.
three_grrr
Oh Mike! How utterly devastating. My heart aches for you and your wife .. for Johnny's daughter, and yes, even for his ex-wife. He was so young, and he was trying so hard to make things right. Sigh. You are all in my prayers. You and your wife brought him what he needed, offered to take him to the doctors, and there is nothing more you could've done. There is no point in second guessing yourselves, in blaming yourselves. Take care of your Wife, and yourself. And remember, we are here for you. You've so many friends here, all thinking of you and praying for some comfort for you and your wife.
eekdog
mike my friend, that's highy disapointing news bro. lost for words. seems like that food might have been something to do about his passing. geez o man, you really gave me some tears now mike, i was tearing up a bit about possibly loosing my job coming next week as mentioned in my last post. news just not get any better huh? and so close to christmas, i hope mike you keep me updated on what caused his death. all of you will be in my prayers my friend, and i will se you when you return, Happy Holidays / Steve
cv1
Prayers and thoughts to you and your family.This is a tough thing to cope with around the holidays. Lost both my parents around the holidays some years back.And still search for reasoning.Maybe someday those questions will have answers.But i agree with the misses,when its time,its time.No matter how untimely it is! Focusing on what u have and the loved ones you can still be with,is the best way to cope.If there is a way! Hope your holidays will still have some joy...CV
brycek
Very sad news Mike..family comes first. Will keep you in my prayers!!
ladiesmen
So sorry to hear this Mike. Yes be there for eachother in this time of pain. Will keep you and rest in my prayers
twingo
So sorry to hear about this sad moment in your and your families life my friend, I wish you and your loved ones lots of strength. Just started to catch up on my comments and this is a very sad thing to start with. Take your time to get back, family goes first, take care.
morganahope
TAKE CARE OF HIS WIFE AND KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IS WHAT HAPPENED TO THE DIVINE ORDER! IT IS VERY SAD TO LOSE SOMEONE YOU LOVE BUT THIS TIME WE CAN NOT BLAME SO or not we should HAVE DONE! JUST PRAY TO YOUR COUSIN REST IN PEACE AND THE GLORY OF GOD!
STEVIEUKWONDER
Mike, this is awful news for someone so young with so much to look forward to. You must be devastated. Family always comes first in these situations. Your Wife needs you right now. I am so very sorry my friend. This is just not fair. How very tragic! Steve :o)
doarte
Life is a Mystery Mike, but you are a truly good person, so take up the force and do what you need to. Wishing you the best thru these times. (*heading to Denver tomorrow, wish I could bring you a bag of cheer) Do take care ....doarte
mrestey
OH MAN!! What a horribly sad story Mike! I hope they find the cause of death. I hope that you and Holly were not exposed to something bad. As far as taking a leave of absence is concerned ... I always say, family first. You do what you have to do. We will still be here for you when you come back. Good luck, best wishes and God speed.
Erestorfan
How awful, Mike! He looked like a good person and his daughter looks so very happy in that picture. I can understand the feelings your going through with the 'we should haves'...we often feel guilty over things that we feel we should have done. But at least Holly's cousin knew that there were those who cared for him, unlike so many in the world. Take care of your wife and give her the time and support she needs and we will be here for you when you return!
artistheat
Sorry for your lost
bazza
This is so sad Mike. My condolences to you and your wife and his family..Yyes 37 is far to young but I believe when you time here is up nothing we do, could or would change that.. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time.. Do take care of your wife at this time we all understand the importance of family.. will see you back in due time!!
Seaview123
Oh Mike, my sincere condolences to you and your family. I'm very sorry for your loss. We'll miss you while your taking time off, but we'll be here when you get back. Take care, and we wish you and yours all the best.
Chaosphoto
What a terrible thing to happen to you both. Food poisoning can do that though it's not too common but also men have a tendency to just try and bull thier way through things that they shouldn't as well. Be careful about the "Waht if's" though. You did care for him and you took things he requested so he would have felt your love. Sadly we can't all be doctors so we have to accept we don't always know just how serious things are. Heck, sometimes doctors don't either so be kind to yourselves. I hope the rest of your Christmas is soo much better