I found out last night that my grandmother died last month. (With the migraine, I leave the phone muted, so I'm hard to reach.) I'm 52, but as long as I had a living grandmother, I could feel like a kid... now that entire generation is gone, and it will take some adjustment. My sense of humor is apt to be strained, and I'll possibly be touchier than usual until I have dealt with the grief. (This is by way of a heads up, or heads down as it were.) She was very much a matriarch, so this is a major loss. Carolly

Ahh. My grandmother died when I was 12. It was a shock, because we had been a 3 generation family. I was growing up with just my mother and my grandmother lived in the apartment next door. I was even named after my grandmother. Condolences

Sorry to hear, lost the only grandparent I knew in 1970 when he was 102. Sincere condolences to you and your family. And Carolly, I'm 52 also, so don't ever stop feeling like a kid. It still seems like high school was only yesterday.

Oh Carolly, we are so sorry to hear the news. We both lost ours a while ago, but they taught us much. We are thinking of you...take care and remember she is watching out for you still. Sharen

I lost my Favorite Grandma when i was 32....the grief is/was unreal...and we were a FIVE generatin family...the pain of loss that ran through the family was like a wave of darkness swallowing each and every one of us. she was 103 when she went and had full control...she had got sick with a brain anyeurism and moved on a month later. i am now 50 myself and the pain has deminished as with the sense of loss, but it took a long time....my heart felt prayers go out to you and may you recover from your pain quickly.

sorry to hear that. when my grandmother died two years ago i was very sad. but then i thought, we loved her, she loved us, she had a long and very interesting life (she died at 95), saw lots of things, been a lot of places... there isn't really a reason to be sad, that's the nature of things that people die. what can you ask more from life then to love and be loved?

I'm sorry for your loss. My grandparents all passed away over the course of the last 10 years. It's a real shock to the system to lose someone you love, I know. But as the cliche goes, time heals.

Carolly, I'm sorry to hear that. Grandmothers are a special type of people. All of my grandparents were gone while I was still a child and my father passed when I was in my mid 30's. The feeling you describe is a familiar one. I guess that's why I like 3D and Renderosity. I can sit here after work and let the immagination run wild and that brings a little youth back to my day. Our thoughts are with you.

I had a four year period in my early forties when I lost my last grandparent (maternal grand mother), my mother and my father in quick succesion....I know what you mean about the sudden loss of older generations. Scarab

I lost my paternal grandfather when I was just a kid -- maybe seven years old, or younger. I remember when my mom broke the news to me and my little sister, we just sat on her lap and cried. But what I really regret is that I never really got to know my grandfather before he passed on. I'd have liked to have spent more time with him, but I was so young... Now I'm just grateful I still have my paternal grandmother, and both maternal grandparents today. My condolences to you for your loss. You know, since we ARE on Renderosity, perhaps it would be a fitting tribute if you made a nice 3D art to honor your grandma's memory? I think she'd like that very much :-)

I am very sorry for your loss Carolly. I was in my 20's when I lost my last grandparent (my maternal grandmother). I never knew the others, but she was a strong and positive part of my life. She was 99 when she passed, but sharp as a tack to the end. In 1990, when I was 45, I lost my Dad.....I know exactly how you feel about "being a kid". The loss of my father brought home the realization that I was soon to be the "oldest generation" of my family. Fortunately, my mother is still with us, but the loss of any grandparent or parent is always difficult. Take some time for yourself if you can.

My sincere condolences, I lost my beloved Grandma when I was 28, 14 years later I still think of her often! Sorry for your loss!

Carolly I feel for you so much. I lost my grandparents while quite young, but really felt the loss when my Mum went 3 years ago, leaving me as an orphan, even at this advanced age I feel orphaned. Tomorrow I have to help my partner bury his Mother, ao now he also is in the same boat. Within our own sorrow we still have room for yours. Hugs Pam

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, Carolly. I was very young (only 6) when I lost my grandmother but I still remember the pain it brought and how much she meant to me. My deepest sympathies go out to you and yours.

My thoughts are with you, take care of yourself during this time. Also you Pam. Will light a candle for each of you. Marque

My heart goes out to you. Don't forget to rejoice in memory (and THANKS) for all the many years you did have her. Lots of longevity in my family (i.e., grandfather died walking around in his Greensburg, Louisiana cornfield at either 103 or 103). His oldest daughter, my aunt will be 100 December 30. Her only son and daughter, 74 and 76 respectively, take care of her. There's a lot more, but I don't wish you to be 100 yourself before you finish reading this! Godspeed and remember those immortal words, "Gather ye rosebuds while ye may, ole time is still a-flying. The same flower that smiles today tomorrow will be dying." Life is good. Cherish. Larry F

My grandmother who was actually my step-grandmother died 10 years ago and the bitch disinherited my mother and the rest of us. While my family wasn't needy or anything it hurt me to see my mom so sad that all the real estate properties and personal effects of her parents were given to strangers. Then a few years ago an uncle who was on my mothers side of the family passed on without any direct heirs and left an estate worth over $600k to some woman who was not even his girlfriend. This upset my mom so much that she actually changed hers and my dads will so that her own kids don't get the shaft.

I don't mean to sound insensitive. Read my previous post to understand why I as this.

Oh, Carolly, my sincerest condolences. I have never had the opportunity to meet any of my grandparents, but losing a loved one is never easy thing to deal with. If there is anything I can do to help you, please don't hesitate to ask.........we are almost neighbors you know.(: genny

So sorry to hear of your loss. Will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

Sorry to hear that Carolly, my thoughts are with you.

It seems to always be a crushing blow to lose a relative. For me, who has no living grandparent, I understand. In my day (I am the same age as you, Carolly), grandparents played quite a role in bringing up their grandchildren (or perhaps it was just where I lived). My earliest memory of my grandfather was when I was about 5. He was changing a tire and I asked if I could help. He chuckled (no pun intended...grin) as he handed the tire tool to me. I grunted and turned and leaned on it but couldn't break the lug nut free. I looked up at my grandfather who then said it didn't look like I could do it. I replied, "I can, if you'll just get it a little bit out of tight." Like all things in life that come along and "smack" us, the "sting" subsides. Knowing you have a bunch of "strangers" here who care a bit makes it just a tiny bit easier, I think. Take care. polite hug

I am sorry to hear this news. It is no easier when you lose someone whatever your age and theirs. Big {{{Hugs}}} Helen

My condolences. My grandmother died last october and i didn't find out about it until February (I live 3000 miles away from my family and have only minimal contact due to complicated psychological issues).

Carolly, all my heart is with you!And on this all I can give you is a big hug! keep going! you are still so very young! I know I don't respond to every post here all the time...it would be time consuming...But I read them everyday! and I have noticed your name very often! You have many friends here!it's like a little family after all. So again a hug and a sweet smile just for you! Nef!

Sorry for your loss Carolly. It's not easy losing anyone you care about. In life or death. -ScottA

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. However I am glad that you knew her and loved her. I didn't get to meet my grandparents until I was 19 but I wouldn't trade the brief time I had with them for anything...they were so neat and so full of experiences they shared with me.hugs

So Sorry Carolly, Death hurts the people left behind. I just lost my father last Oct, my mother and daughter 5yrs ago. I really believe she is in another world, her spirit will live on and on. You have her in your heart. I lost all my Grandparents when I was in my 20's. My husband lost both parents with in 9 months of each other and They were only 61yrs old. I'm now a Na-na for the first time, I hope I have many years to watch the lil one grow and be apart of her life. Just keep all the good memories and your love for her in your heart. It's wonderful how caring and not afraid to say you hurt. (((((((((big hugs)))))))) .

I am so sorry, hun! When I lost my beloved Grandma, it took ages for me to recover...she was like a Mom to me always, and I had thought she'd be around forever. I feel with you! Heike

My condolences!

Carolly my thoughts are with you. My favorite grandma died 12 years ago when I was 8mths pregnant with her great granddaughter. I loved her very much and still miss her. I send you big hugs I know how much the loss of a loved one hurts. Nothing I can say will make it any easier,I am so sorry.

All my thoughts go to you, who have lost a loved one. All my condolences.

Sorry to hear that news. :( Condolences to you. And may God Bless you and heal you, and help you cope.

Bummer! Lost my last grandparent a few years ago, my Fraternal grandad, AKA "pop" made great tuna, and chicken, sandwiches, used to take us on trips looking for "the lost treacle mines", he had a "magic cupboard" always had sweets in it... Sad to hear your news, but were only human after all, pain is part of the process. later jb

I am sorry to hear this, Carolly. You'll be in my prayers! Jay

Thank you all for words of comfort. The women in my family tend to be tough old birds, and so it is a shock when the batteries finally run down. She was stubborn, opinionated, judgemental, independent... maybe not friendly qualities, but people dropped in every day to visit her and listen to stories of the past and talk about present conditions. Whether it was politics or plants for her garden, Grandma cared. She had an essential passion for life, and that sort of strength is perhaps what keeps the mind going. She owned 11 rental units, and when one of them was trashed by a tenant, my uncle recommended simply removing it, and leaving the land be. (I was horrified when I looked it over and realized that there were no 3-prong outlets in the house!) But, no. She was thinking of the future... and commissioned a set of plans for a modern little A-frame. Then she decorated it. Arguing with the local bureaucrats and dealing with contractors is no fun, but she wanted that cottage. Grandma usually got what she wanted... and the fish which fights back is the tastiest. I'm going to miss her. We didn't always agree, but there is nobody who can take her place. A picture for her is a good idea. I don't own any hummingbird models (she coddled hers), but do have enough flowers for a garden scene. Something bright with mountains in the background. Carolly

It's only Fair to put things where they belong, as some like to say. ;)

I did not really mean that, I was just making a point, Ill delete the other post. Condolences Im surey ou miss her and need comforting.