I have a similar problem with glowing hair, and anxiously await the answer.

For the hair, uncheck the 'visible in raytracing' in the properties.  I would change all the lightsettings casting shadows to raytracing instead of Depth Shadowing and activate raytracing in your Render settings.  Also increase your setting values in Render settings, it takes longer to render but it will do a better job picking out details.

Be aware that making hair invisible in raytracing will speed up your rendering, but if you're doing raytraced shadows (as I always do) then the hair won't cast or catch any shadows and will often look out of place.  What are the material settings for the hair above?  It looks to me like the hair has a value in the Ambient channel.

here my settings for both i screen shot it so you know what its set it and better to help me ^_^

http://i227.photobucket.com/albums/dd275/Akura_/untitled2.png
http://i227.photobucket.com/albums/dd275/Akura_/untitled-1.png

That's not a topic I know much of  but what if you reduce difuse value to ie. 0.5 for that hair. Maybe they are to bright and together with that specific light they just render as 100% white.

hmmm your probably right. unless someone can make a light set that does the same thing but able to render the hair too >.<

For one thing, make Translucence_Value zero...

Another, the material you're showing a pic for is only for the scalp.  Need to see the other material zone(s) for the main hair.