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That is aweful!!! I am so sorry. I also agree with you that it really sucks when that happens and nothing is done. Years ago my apartment was broken into. Just myself and two children lived there at the time. They also took everything of value and worst of all our security. My little guy was only two at the time and he refused to leave the house for months afterwards without his bear bear (stuffed orange cow!) because he was afraid someone would come and take him. It made me cry. Please try not to lose faith in people as there are many more good than bad (hard to believe sometimes) but as for the justice system.....I'm still replacing movies and such as I didn't have insurance and to top it off I told them who did it and how I knew and "they" couldnt' prove it enough to charge the person. Again I am so sorry to hear this it's an aweful thing to have happen esoecially when it sounds as if you have so much more important things to worry about right now. Hugs to you and yours this really stinks.
My sympathy. I had an apartment broken in to as well. Fortunately (if you can call it fortunate) they were (we are pretty sure) after my roommates gun and only grabbed a few small things on their way thru, camera, pocket knives, money from a jar (they didnt take the 1gal jar, just the change from inside). Unfortunately unless they catch them in the act nothing gets done. Even if you know who did it .
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I've had my car broken into several times and NOT Once would the cops come out and even check for finger prints. It makes me wonder what the hell we p[ay them for these days! They're certainly not serving or protecting us! One of the theives even left his dirty cigar butt with genetic evidence on it and they didn't give a damn about it.
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Steve, when you're talking about forensic evidence it really depends upon who's collecting it as to whether it will be turned in. Quite honestly, a lot of your older police officers just see these cases as an excuse for paperwork. One police officer I've met described the whole analysis of forensic evidence as "geek stuff." A few of the younger guys who have gotten degrees and have been exposed to the whole CSI thing are a lot more conscientious. From the lab standpoint, a lot of incoming evidence just sits in the backlog until it can be analyzed. So it could be months before the evidence is actually looked at. Forensic labs are consistency understaffed and underfunded. (So what you see on CSI isn't how it actually is.) Plus, there is now the stress of choosing between hiring new people and having your lab be accredited which can mean that the money has to be spent on adding structural features to the lab for security or developing new quality assurance protocols. In addition, without having additional evidence to make a comparison may make having the genetic evidence not very probative. I'm not sure whether every DNA lab has access to the CODIS database as well. I honestly think that not all police officers are trained to collect genetic evidence as well. As far as the fingerprints, that is an equally backlogged section although there is the chance of matching crime scene latent prints with DMV records or previous arrest records. Azrael, unfortunately a lot of times cops are more willing to do stuff if they know you. A lot of cops/detectives have the idea that they are the only ones who do anything and the world would just fall apart if they weren't out on their beat instead of responding to your call. The idea that a suspect needs to be caught in the act is BS. Otherwise, nothing would ever be solved. My suggestion is that you call the laboratory itself and have them send someone out. You pay taxes so they should come out. ****There may be toolmarks from the crowbar the guy used to break in. The forensic science community is a small world. Tell me what city you live in and I'll see if I have a contact for you.
My sincere sympathies. My house was burglarized twice. The initial shock was bad enough, but then it comes back to you afresh when you look for something you didn't realize was taken and it's not there. Months after I was robbed I was going on a trip and I went to get my suitcases out of the back of the closet and realized that the burglar had used them to carry stuff out. Don't expect the police to do anything, they are too busy holding DARE meetings and giving tickets to collect the tax on speeding to arrest real criminals. Hey, those crooks could be dangerous! You will be lucky to even get your stuff back if any of it is ever recovered. I really feel sorry for you. Good luck in getting over this, it will take time probably.
Really sorry to hear that... I know how dispiriting it is when the police don't seem interested. Hope you and your family feel safe again soon.
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This is really nothing. My Mom lives in an aparment complex with underground parking complete with video cameras. Her car was broken into and 'caught on tape' the policed viewed the tape, and said nothing could be done even with the two perp's caught nicely on the tape.
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Thank you all very much. I guess I just needed to talk about it to feel a little better. I truley hope something is done. I called every thrift shop and pawn shop in a 20 mile radius, a few leads, but it just shows that you have to do stuff yourself, because nobody else will do it for you. The detective is going to take fingerprints off the plastic piggy bank we have. Its only a few days old and pretty fresh and being plastic will make it easier. Thank you all for your care and support.
And by the way the city I live in is Buffalo, NY. :D There are many toolmarks in the door, a peice is missing and looks like a crow bar or screw driver driven into the door, very deeply./
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Consider moving to a red state........ Break-ins happen here, of course. Statistically not as often. But if you catch them and shoot them, then the chances are that the act will be recognized for what it is: self defense.
I take it that you've all heard of the recent shooting death of a woman in NYC when she stood up to a group of muggers on the street. People like this don't deserve life in prison. They deserve life in pain and suffering (and a quick death very shortly thereafter). Always return the amount of respect for life shown by the perpetrator (of course, when there is conclusive evidence for reciprocation). As for myself, I keep a live katana near my bed (closer to me than to anyone entering the room) just in case. And, yep, I know how to use it. ;) Sorry to hear about your violation. Hope the perpetrators are caught and your stolen items recovered! Robert
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PapaBlueMarlin's suggestion is very good. A friend of mine was burglarised not too long ago, and they caught the guy when my friend recognised most of his eclectic music collection in a popular second-hand music shop here. He got his music back, and because the music shop demands names and verifiable addresses from anyone from whom it buys music (because they don't, in principle, deal in stolen goods) the police tracked and arrested him. But damn, that sucks, horribly. At the end of the day it's not the stuff they took, but the fact that someone violated your private space, and that hurts. Don't lose faith in humanity, though-- for every criminal git there are a hundred decent people. It's just that the gits make their presence felt so much more strongly by their githood. I've been lucky, but acquaintances and neighbours have had some pretty bad experiences. I try to do my bit to help make other people just that little bit safer, and there are loads of other people doing the same thing. Maybe you could write out a short letter to put through your neighbors' doors, to let them know what happened. That way they can be extra vigilant against it happening to someone else... as well as maybe catching the person who broke into yours should they try it again. I'm truly sorry. The sad thing is that burglaries are not treated as serious crimes when they very much should be.
Consider moving to a red state........ I second that. It's what I did after my house was robbed twice and my parents were also cleaned out a little later. Also, you might consider getting some security gear. A burglar may return in a few weeks if he got good stuff the first time; he will figure that you are getting all new stuff now.
Now now. I used to live in one of the most dyed-in-the-wool blue states there are. I routinely left my house and car open, and never had a thing nicked. I also routinely opened other people's unlocked cars to turn their headlights off before their batteries ran down, and other people probably did the same for me. Crime is not a blue state/red state issue.
Crime is not a blue state/red state issue.
Guess again, who's robbed more? Someone from a big city like Boston, New York etc or someone from a small city from a red state. Red/blue states DO make a big diff. Depending on where you live. I'm from a blue state, it's so common to be robbed up here in MA, the cops don't even bother showing up anymore. Big cities are usually riddled with a high crime rate, especially the West/East Coasts.(JMHO) Message edited on: 02/04/2005 19:48
Well seeing as how my car was broken into like clockwork for 6 years running til I finally stopped putting a new radio in and started leaving the doors unlocked and the windows rolled down to keep them from getting broken by theives too stupid to see that the locks weren't being used. I'd say that the cops had PLENTY of reason to come out at least once to check for prints in that time period to find out if it was the same theif year after year. if nothing else they would at least have gotten some prints to put in their little file cabinets.
I came back to my appartement where I lived before and someone also had been inside. Beside of take things of value also photos from vacations, famely photos in frames and personal papers was stolen. At least the police came to your house, they didn't bother to come to mine! So much for HC Andersen's fairy tale country!
The axe over my kitchen door should tell the robber something.
Decorate your house with alot of jagged weapons
Yes.....this gives the intruder something to take down off the wall as he hunts for you.
A .357 located in the drawer next to your bed, or placed directly under your bed within easy reach -- is far more effective.
It might not be politically correct to say so -- but your average 200lb. hardened intruder won't be intimidated by a 100lb. woman holding a knife. Especially not if he's holding a gun.
On the other hand, a 100lb. woman holding a .357 is a different matter.........
BTW - security experts say that the best deterrent is a large, mean dog in the house. Usually, the barking that such an animal makes is enough to discourage your average burglar from attempting to come into the house. Keep in mind, a Rottweiler in a fenced-in back yard won't do you a bit of good. The animal has to be inside the house.
BTW II --
My point concerning red states wasn't that you wouldn't get broken into here.
My point is that you can legally defend yourself if it happens (but hopefully not).
By contrast -- your average blue state is very likely to throw you in jail if you use deadly force against an intruder. I lived in MA for a while. Boston, in fact (Woburn). That state was known to crack down hard on individuals that defended themselves "too vigorously". Even in their own homes.
Red states tend to view the matter quite differently.
Down South -- if he's in your house, he's dead.
It's called the right of self defense.
Oh one more point here, on the issue of human kind and in the defense of....My purse with all my i.d had been taken as well (I don't like carrying a purse) anyway, about two weeks later the police phoned me, a gentleman had found my i.d laying on a path between two buildings, gathered it all up and brought it to them so it could be returned! Now that's nice!! Just about forgot about that part and it was the only thing good about the whole thing!
Yeah and to back up what Xeno is saying, I live in Kentucky and one night I thought I heard a noise. At this time I was living on about 130 acres, my husband wasn't home and I was scared. I called the police, they came right out and checked around the immediate property around the house, he came back and asked me if I had a gun, I said yes, actually I had it in my robe pocket at that very moment. LOL He asked "Do you know how to use it?" and I said "Yes", he told me to shoot them if they come back, also that I should make sure that they are by the door or inside the house when I shoot. I am originally from the city so I was quite shocked by this attitude, however, I have to say that at that time, when I was so scared, I loved that attitude because it made me feel like I could do something to protect myself without worrying about going to jail myself. I am really sorry to hear about you being robbed. :-(
Yeah, I don't think I would have shot anybody either. I don't even like guns myself. My husband was working 3rd shift at that time and thought is was mandatory for me to have a gun. I have always had nice large dogs myself but at that particular time I didn't because he had to be put to sleep and I was still in mourning over him, couldn't bear to get another dog. Anyway, I really can't say what I would have done but it did make me feel safer.
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Well, call me a pinko hippie liberal, but I'm not shooting anybody.
If it's my family, me, or the intruder......there is no issue involved.
There is no way that I am going to sit back and watch while a rapist/robber/killer/whatever does his thing to me and mine.
He's dead.
About two years ago, in my (Southern) city, we had a local news story.
A number of home invasion robberies had been occuring in our area, perpetrated by a gang of so-called "Irish Rovers". Wandering bands of "families" or a "traveling commune".
Well, one black family had their house broken into by a group. The group came in yelling "police! police!"
When interviewed later on TV, the black man stated that he responded by saying "You ain't the po-lice." And then he started shooting.
They didn't do what they had intended. The father was slightly wounded in the exchange, but his family was safe.
If I recall correctly, he succeeded in killing two of them.
In red states, we know the reason.
BTW - I understand that "home invasion" type robberies have become far more frequent in Canada since that nation passed strict laws about homeowners having to store guns & ammunition locked away, guns unloaded, etc.......
When the predators know that they can do their thing with impunity, then they rule the world. Or, at least -- they rule your world.
All that the police can do afterwards is pick up the pieces. In the gravest extreme, you've got to be prepared to defend yourself and your family.
When a nation or a state doesn't recognize the right of self defense, then the killers are in charge.
First of all my sympathy goes out to all those that have been violated in such a maner. I personally have not experienced this situation. While I agree with most comments about "defending" yourself with some type of weapon, I find that the majority of this type of crime happens when the "victim" is away. Obviously a weapon would be of no use other than to give the violator(s) something else to take. The idea of a large dog is a good one however, if the violator(s) are carrying a weapon they can easily remove the threat of one large dog. My family has a Rot, a Shepard and a Min Pin. While the Min Pin is the most ferocious of the three, her only abilities are the obviously loud bark and fast movements. The Rot is know for biting down and the jaw locking in place. The Shepard is fast and a repetitive biter. All three are know for the barking and are very protective of the house. When we are away they are all inside. While there is never a %100 gaurantee, I believe that our house has a relative safety value. When we are home and in bed I have a rifle, a bow, a kitana and various other "weapons" around the house within easy reach. I live on the outskirts of a relatively small town (approximately 20,000) but within 25 miles of two rather large towns (excess of 250,000) that have a lot of this type of crime. We do not even lock our doors when we aren't home. Once everyone is in for the night and the last person heads to bed the front door is locked but the back door and the door in from the garage is never locked. We recently had a situation where someone looking for a person that lived accross the street came to our house instead. Believing they were at the right house they started to open the door and walk in as that is how it is done accross the street. That was not a wise move on his part. My wife was home at the time and all three dogs were right there at the door. He realized his error and reached to touch my wife to "apologize" and she just told him that would not be wise. All three dogs were ready to take matters in to their own "paws" at that time. Again, my sympathys to out to those who have experienced this type of violation. Pony
I would never consider "defending" myself.
However, I would gladly DEFEND both me and mine.
Obviously a weapon would be of no use other than to give the violator(s) something else to take.
If one is away, true.
Unfortunately, home invasion robberies are a reality of our times.
I am glad that your wife's experience turned out to be a false alarm.
What if it hadn't been?
Those dogs would help. A Magnum would help, too -- especially if she knew how to use it.
The problem with weapons like knives, katanas, baseball bats, etc. is that they are of little use against someone armed with a gun -- and that they require one to get in close to use them.
It's actually fairly easy for a large man to take a baseball bat or a knife away from a small woman. He'll then proceed to use it on her.
A small woman with a great big gun is a different story. As long as she's smart, and knows how to properly use the weapon.
Rifles and shotguns are awkward things to use indoors. They are long, stick out, and are therefore clumsy to point around corners, etc.. Not to mention that a long gun is easier for the intruder to grab away from you. A pistol or a carbine is much easier to handle.
Also, it's a bad idea, if you hear noises -- such as the sound of breaking glass -- to leave your bedroom and start walking down the hall or down the stairs to see what's going on. The hallway or the stairs can be a deathtrap. It's best to grab your weapon, and then take cover behind the bed or another large piece of furniture in your bedroom. This forces the intruder to come to you. Let him take all of the risks. Also, you should have a phone handy -- preferably a cell phone that can't have its wires cut outside of your house.
BTW - locking one's doors is always a good idea. Even if you live in a "safe" place. Locking the doors prevents "accidental" intruders -- such as the man you described -- from getting inside to begin with.
It avoids any unnecessary problems and/or misunderstandings.
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BTW, again -- the value of a large dog is to discourage your average property-theft-minded burgler. Especially when you aren't at home. A single large dog can do this job quite effectively.
On the other hand, if a determined killer/rapist is on the prowl, then you are dealing with a different kind of creature. In that case, several large dogs wouldn't be a bad idea.
Especially for anyone that (for whatever reason) is unwilling to use a gun to defend themselves. In that case, the dogs will do it for you.
"A Magnum would help, too -- especially if she knew how to use it" This is a good point however, when she is in the kitchen and someone knocks on the door she goes into the living room to answer the door. At this point is when the door begins to open and she would have not opportunity to retrieve the "gun". This only leaves the dogs to defend her at that time. "BTW - locking one's doors is always a good idea. Even if you live in a "safe" place. Locking the doors prevents "accidental" intruders -- such as the man you described -- from getting inside to begin with" I would have to agree with this statement. However, we do not lock the doors when someone is home and there is almost always someone home. The other part to this is that I would prefer to have someone steal my belongings than the life of someone in the house. Everything of value that they can steal can either be replaced or lived without except for life. I hold the same thought process with my car. I do not lock the doors as I would rather only have to replace the radio then have to replace the window as well. "Locks only keep honest people honest" In ohter words, if someone wants to steal from you they will regardless of locks. They offer a moderate amount of security but do not overly rely on them. More family members are injured every year by "accident" due to someone thinking that someone is trying to break in than actual criminals by weapons kept near for "security". Pony
Locks slow them down. Locks might give you the time that you need to prepare to receive your "guests".
Also, if the lock is tough enough, it'll discourage amateurs.
We've had a gang of teenaged boys in our local news lately. They were robbing unlocked cars. But if a car was locked, then they left it alone.
Of course, locking things doesn't stop all of them. But it does stop some of them. And it slows the rest of them down. In a critcal situation, slowing them down might make the difference between a desirable outcome.......or not.
The other part to this is that I would prefer to have someone steal my belongings than the life of someone in the house.
Unfortunately, you can't read an intruder's mind. There is simply no way to know exactly what their actual intentions are. They might say "I won't hurt you" just to put you off of your guard. Your life -- not to mention the lives of your family members -- are not things to gamble with. Especially not in favor of an unwelcome invader's well-being.
BTW -- the "Irish Rovers" that were operating in my area a couple of years ago would sometimes approach home owners with offers of performing work -- things like paving driveways, doing yard work, etc........
Once they had convinced the people in the house to open the door, a group of them would rush in and subdue the occupants. They would then proceed to tie them up and viciously beat and rob them.
In a couple of cases, they killed people. In at least one case, they kidnapped someone.
I would strongly advise against taking any unnecessary chances. Like leaving doors unlocked.
Of course, it's all up to the individual........
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Ladies:
If you've watched episodes of "Buffy the Vampire Slayer", or various other fantasy TV shows and movies (like police dramas, Xena, etc.) ------
You might have gotten the idea that a 95 lb. girl can easily clock a 250 lb. man with little effort. Just one swing, and BANG! -- he's down.
Well.....fantasy is a fun thing. But it can also be an extremely dangerous thing whenever people attempt to apply it in real life.
In real life -- for your average 250 lb. man, wrestling with a 95 to 120 lb. woman is an experience equivalent to play-wrestling with a small child. She simply doesn't stand a chance. It's about like a kitten grabbed by a Rottweiler. I know that some feminist types don't like hearing stuff like this......but that doesn't make it any less of a fact.
There is no such thing as a "battered husband shelter".
Please......don't try fighting off an intruder with a knife. For your own safety.
Use a gun. It works. And while you are at it -- vote Republican. ;-)
Guns, knives and steel... oh my. If I may quote Xenophonz: "When the predators know that they can do their thing with impunity, then they rule the world. Or, at least -- they rule your world." Well, when the predators have you so bloody paranoid that you're trapped behind your weapons in your own home, then they own not just your external world, but your internal world as well. Yes, there are horrible, horrible people out there, and they want to hurt other people. But these people really are extremely rare. The average burglar just wants stuff, and hey, stuff can be replaced. All the stuff I have is not worth my life or anybody else's: I'd rather let them have the stuff. If someone threatens someone I love, I'll get between them, and I can be a reckonable force if I have to be, but I will not keep a gun in the house, nor will I go for the cleavers (I do a lot of Chinese cooking, and keep two huge, wickedly sharp cleavers in the house, and I'm pretty good with them. Whack!). In my opinion, 'they' have won the minute they have you running scared. I won't be intimidated. You'd be amazed how well that works.
"You might have gotten the idea that a 95 lb. girl can easily clock a 250 lb. man with little effort. Just one swing, and BANG! -- he's down. Well.....fantasy is a fun thing. But it can also be an extremely dangerous thing whenever people attempt to apply it in real life. In real life -- for your average 250 lb. man, wrestling with a 95 to 120 lb. woman is an experience equivalent to play-wrestling with a small child. She simply doesn't stand a chance. It's about like a kitten grabbed by a Rottweiler. I know that some feminist types don't like hearing stuff like this......but that doesn't make it any less of a fact." really? seen it done mate. there again she was a 4dan black belt ;) and I've seen my sister (120 lbs) deck someone twice her size with a punch and she has no training. sorry, it is quite possible to do. you forgot to add the priviso "unless the circumstances are ideal".
Shooting someone for stealing your things isn't 'self' defense, it's 'stuff' defense. I'd rather let someone steal my things than take a life. Things can be replaced. Lives cannot. Besides which, here in Australia we don't own guns and it works out quite nicely thank you. Gun deaths are few and far between. I believe the national yearly average is about 300 and that's mostly in the large cities and criminal/police related.
is more correct since there are several in the UK. please.. facts straight or a priviso statement! it saves someone correcting you later on ;) Interesting. I'd hate to see....well, never mind. ;-) I never claimed to be speaking for the UK. They might have such things in the former Soviet Republics also. Places ending in "--stan". I'd be unaware of that fact, too. As for "correcting" me -- when it comes to the UK, I suppose that I stand corrected. Good thing that I live here in the US.........
Shooting someone for stealing your things isn't 'self' defense, it's 'stuff' defense. I'd rather let someone steal my things than take a life. Things can be replaced. Lives cannot.
Once again -- you have no way of knowing that "stuff" is all that they are after.
You takes your picks, and you lives with the results.
Gun deaths are few and far between. I believe the national yearly average is about 300 and that's mostly in the large cities and criminal/police related
This is no doubt true, but I'd point out that Australia has a couple of things that the US doesn't......
- a far, far smaller population than the US
- a far more homogenous society than the US
These two things make a difference.
The #2 reason listed above also has a lot to do with the extremely low crime rate in Japan.
In spite of the fact that Japanese entertainment on TV and in movies is much more violent than standard fare here in the US -- the Japanese have a tiny crime rate.
Japan is homogenous. On top of other cultural factors.
No, this isn't the 'Coop........
So it's a (relatively) quiet discussion.
And quite a bit OT.
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2 days ago, I leave with my husband who had to take off of work early for a family emergency. I leave at 3pm come home at midnight to find that my house was ransacked. Completely robbed. They took all my christmas presents, some of my clothing, money, went through my personal belongings, took my husbands playstation 2 and all his games, every dvd I own... just anything worth anything. They tried to take my computer. Everything was completely stripped. The monitor was off and all the plugs except my cable was out of the tower. I feel completely violated and unsafe. We called the cops and of course they were there within minutes. My door with a dead bolt AND TWO damn chains broken into. Looks like they took a prybar and hammer to the outside of the door. I was extremely upset, scared and just loosing it. To see all my things taken, expecially christmas presents, my neices room even . They went through my socks, underware, clothing. So basically we were told well not much can be done and well we take a hit for this. We finally Bit&*&^% enough to get a detective to come because if anything whoever stole this stuff's fingerprints is everywhere in my house unless he was smart enough to wear gloves. All my cabinents left open. They even took the knife I use to protect myself. Ugg I am just at a loss. I completely loose faith in the world and people and the justice system anymore. We were victimized yet nothing will be done.