When I was about 7 ½ months pregnant with my second child, my son was 2 years old. I was watching what I ate, going to the doctor’s and feeling sick a lot. Getting ready for the new baby, which included buying clothes and things the baby needed. In the process, my 2 year old became insecure, although I tried to include him in everything. However, he started to act out. I thought this was the dreaded “terrible two’s.” I asked him one day, “Robert honey, what’s the matter? What is making you so angry? Can Mommy help?” Robert told me, “Mommy loves the baby in her tummy more.” This broke my heart that he would feel this way, how could I make him see that was not true? I knew words were not enough. I looked around, for something, anything to help me explain. I saw the candles that I have all thru my house (I like candles). And I knew how I could explain. I pulled down 3 candles that were the same, setting them on the table. Robert, honey, come here…I want to show you something. We sat at the table, Robert on my lap. “Robert, see this candle? This is Mommy.” I lit the candle. “See the flame? That is the love I have for myself in my heart.” I then showed Robert the 2nd candle. “Robert, this candle is you.” I then took the Mommy candle and lit the Robert candle. “Robert, see how Mommy’s flame lit your candle? That was Mommy giving you her love. But, look at the flames, they are the same. I can give you love and still love me the same.” He nodded his head, eyes lighting up. I then showed Robert the 3rd candle. “Robert, this is the baby in Mommy’s tummy.” I took the Mommy candle and lit the Baby candle. I told Robert, “That is Mommy’s love for the baby in my tummy.” I then told Robert to look at all 3 candles, look at the flames. “Robert, see the flames? They are all the same. That is Mommy’s love. I can love all of us the same, you and the baby without taking any love away from you. That is how a Mommy’s love is. NOTHING can take it away or make it any less.” I asked Robert if he understood. He smiled at me, his eyes lit up. “Yes, Mommy loves me and baby same.” My heart melted and I was so grateful to be able to make sure he understood and remained secure in my love. Seven years later, I was pregnant with my daughter. This time, Steven became insecure. Robert looked at me…”Mommy show Steven the candles”…and I did…this time with 4 candles…whereas, Steven too understood a Mother’s love…and was secure in it… ***I was talking to a friend, and thru one of our many conversations, the above came up, he suggested I post it…so, here it is***