Hello.... I have some bad news regarding my baby. To everyone who didn't know. I was a month preganet. Well I had went to the hospital by ambulance 1/24/04 for chronic stomach pains. I've had 2 ultra sounds done and to find out my baby was captured in my right tube. It was 3 and a half inches long, and I was 1 month along. DR.Islam told me that my baby was swollen up in the tube and the tube was about to burst. I could have died on Tuesday. I had to have surgury to remove the infected trapped fetus. I was in surgury for 2 or 3 hours. I have 3 little holes in my stomach. Which one is in my belly button. Dr.Islam had stuck a scope in my belly button and had stuck tools in the other holes to cut the tube and remove the pregnacy. Yes I am upset I have lost my baby,but am happy god shed his graces on me and let me live. All i did was cry. I was so upset and so attached to my baby. Even though the fetus was only with me for 1 month. The father of my baby just had gotten out of jail 2 nights ago and I had informed him about my pregnacy the day of the surgury. I had explained to him what happened. He wasn't attached because he had found out the same day it all happened. I can imagin how he feels. Finding out about his new baby and losing it in mothing bout a 7 or 8 hour period. As a man he wouldn't have been attached till the baby was born. "A Man is a Father once a child is born,but a Woman is a Mother once the child is concived". That is something a nurse said to me at the hospital before my surgury. She told me that because I was worried about if the Father cared or not. Many of my freinds and family whom also felt attached to my baby were also hurt when I called them up the news. I am looking to start a internet suport group for woman who lost a new life, a ending is a new begaining. remember that. Coping With Greif, MA (Mothers Anonymous) Support Group E-mail me for details thadymondprynces@aol.com For mothers with an lost only. I feel for you. You never know the feeling till once you felt it. We can all help each other. Just email me with your Name,Age,Location, Your lost and a breif story of your lost. Everys mothers voice should be heard Every child's boorn or unborb story shoud be heard. "A person is a person,no matter how small"-Dr.Suess Thank you gfor your time.

Born* Unborn** Dang typos... Hard to type with so much on your mind.

Hi, I know exactly how you feel as I lost several at an early stage. But anyway I'm having another one and am half way along now and can feel it wiggle, so it's important to know that things will get better with time. Anyway at least your partner is back with you now at a time when you need support. Love and best wishes, esther

I am so sorry to hear this. Happy to know that you are ok, though. Take good care of yourself. I'll be thinking of you.

he is not my partner he is not with me and he is not suporting me. he juss suported me before and after sugury and thats it. now he acts like nothing happened I guess.

he is not my partner he is not with me and he is not suporting me. he juss suported me before and after sugury and thats it. now he acts like nothing happened I guess.

oh, that's not good. It's doing it tough to go through this on your own. I hope you're feeling better soon. Take care, Love esther

Im so sorry to hear this posette...My thoughts and prayers are with you hon and for anyone that has lost a child.. altho I have not personally experienced this loss,I have gone through it with my daughter 10 years ago when she miscarried in her 2nd month..and even tho she was at a early stage,we did mourn.

My prayers go with you, and even though its hard to believe now, (I'm not trying to step on anyones toes, who might not believe in God mind you),, but God has a reason for everything. We might not always understand it, but there's a reason for everything. My prayers and thoughts are with you.__Essie

My prayers and thought are also with you posette, we just went through something similar in November with our grandbaby. My daughter in law was a week from delivery and the baby died, it would have been our first grandson. I hope you have other family to help you get through this tough time. Please know you are in my prayers. God Bless, Sallie.

I don't bother with his family. I don't even bother with him anymore the only reason I even spoke with him was to tell that I was pregnet to him and the baby was either dead or dying inside of me. He was in jail when I found out. He didn't have much to say. His oppionion don't matter to me anyways

I'm so sorry to hear this. Take care.

Bless you. I have been through this six times, a couple were quite developed. It is a terrible thing to endure, and many people try and console you by saying things like "never mind you can have another". The only thing I will say to try and console you is that time does heal. Personally, I do not want to be part of a 'grief group'. That is just me, I prefer to move on with my life, I have been through a lot of very down times but I am still alive, I have family and friends and I am going forward now. My thoughts are with you and I pray that you find some consolation is whatever group you establish. Hugs, Elgyfu

i feel with you. my wife had this twice happened some six years ago, first left side then the right one. the doctors had to cut both tubes, so she can't practically conceive no baby now. practically. it was bad but we didn't give up, four years ago we tried in vitro insemination and it worked the second time! now we have two loveliest girl twins in the world! just don't give up.

I am so sorry for your loss. I, too, recently had a miscarriage, at Christmas and was only a few weeks pregnant and it has devastated me, so I know what you mean. Hope you feel well and healthy soon.

I will keep you- and your child - in my prayers. I wish I more word to say - sometimes tha all we can do.

I wish it never happened The sugury is still painful to me... i feel like crap my stomach is sore and I have 2 holes in my stomch and my belly button had cuts in it from the scope.... my back hurts i am not the happiest person.

Posette First off let me say how sorry for your loss I am. As for the father, try to remember men deal with loss and grief differently sometimes. I too will keep you in my prayers posette.

he was just concerned because he thought he had another kid to pay for. After sugury he was back to acting like his old self. If he cared he would have been there,but he was at home drinking. He didn't care at all.

well damn. And ya know, that bellybutton thing generally takes like a year to heal up. There's really no excuse for a man like that. He makes the rest of us look bad.

thats why Imma not talk to him anymore. I don't call him or nuddin... he lives a walking distance from my house. You think Imma go and vist? nah bump dat. ain't got no time for it.he got my number. He hasn't called me since my sugury.. he hasn't checked up on me.

was me, I'd shoot his ass, but I'm less forgiving lol

oh trust me... when he get back on the grind the cops will be informed about this little way of making fast money, they will be informed where he keeps his drugsoops and where in the trunk of the car too look oops again.. The things the after affect of sugury make u say....

Posette, make sure you wait until you're back to your old level of strength before taking him on through the cops. What you need now is time and rest. The last thing you need right now is a man like that showing up on your doorstep thinking to get his revenge by taking it out on you physically. Men like that never change... I'm sure he'll still be up to his old tricks in a few months when you're stronger, and he'll be less likely to connect a visit from the cops with you. And congrats on giving up on him... you deserve better.

lol he would never think of ME to call the cops on him.. I'm the one person he less expects to do dat because he don't know I am mad at him.. He thinks we cool as coolwhip right now. so imma let him think dat LOL... he juss got outta jail so the cops wouldn't get much fom him.. imma wait like a Year when he got mad money and mad drugs than imma snitch on dat ass. i mean i am NO snitch but he deserves it. he did wrong he act wrong... he deserves it